Hi worriedwife,   At the end of the day, if he wants to stop the chemo there's not much you can do - it's his choice.  But would he be interested in perhaps having a lower dose, or maybe switch to a different drug?  I don't know much about which drugs are used for colon cancer, but it would be wise to ask the oncologist if there is some room to maneuver?     All the best Budgie ... View more

Hi Samira,   I'm very sorry for your loss.  I know it is devastating & very hard to move forward, but you must.  I lost my eldest sister to breast cancer in 2004, November 28.  She was a wonderful person & I  miss her dearly.    Everyone grieves in a different way, & for a different amount of time.  If you find yourself unable to cope, you should, perhaps, see a counsellor. It's not easy, but you must move forward.   Your sister wouldn't want you to be wasting away, she would want you to get on with living your life, with your husband & other family.   Please take care   Budgie  ... View more

Hi AprilMay,   So sorry to hear of your diagnosis.  It's never pleasant or easy, & it's normal to be scared.   Do you know what's going to happen next with your treatment?  Surgery or chemo/radiation?  I suppose it's a bit early yet.  It is a very big shock to hear you actually have cancer, isn't it?  One minute you're cruising along with life, & the next minute your world comes crashing down around you. It's scary not knowing what's going to happen, whether or not you're going to live through it or die.  But one thing to remember is that death is a natural part of the big cycle.  It comes to all of us - for some of us, it comes too soon.  Whenever I start thinking about my impending death,  I remember this.  It helps me put things into perspective.  I think back on my life & realise that I'm happy with what I've done, what I've achieved; & while I'd absolutely love to keep on living, & will do everything in my power to stay alive, I'm ok with dying.   I'm sorry for my long ramble. Do you have any immediate family that can give you support?  Please tell us about your self, if you want to.   Budgie  ... View more

Hopefully, they will only need one dose of the radiation for her.   Your Mum sounds like a marvellous woman.  I wish her all the best. Take care of yourself too 😊 ... View more

Are the doctors offering radiation for the pain?  I have bone mets in 3 of my ribs & radiation has controlled the pain for the biggest one of them, the others aren't painful at the moment.   I hope she gets some comfort soon.  How is your Mum going? ... View more

Hi NaomiW,   I am very sorry for your loss.   I know it must be extremely hard for you  at the moment, but you must give yourself time to grieve properly.  As you said it's only been 10 days, or 11 now.  Your feelings are still very raw.    You need to know that things will get better; they may take a long while, but they WILL get better.  Use some or all of the resources available to you & your daughter & I'm sure you will find your way.   My heart goes out to you.  Please take care. Budgie  ... View more

Hi Craig,   Welcome to this horrible club filled with wonderful people.   Rhabdoid tumours are very rare and usually occur in children.  The fact you are an adult puts you in good stead as you have strength to fight it.  Don't pay attention to the 5 year survival rate the doctors tell you.  I have metastatic kidney cancer of the clear cell type, with a 5 year survival rate of 8%: I'm now 7years passed diagnosis.  Alot depends on your attitude, & the fact you're pissed off is a good thing.   Turn that anger towards survival & you'll go a long way.   Immunotherapy has only been used for treating kidney cancer in Australia for the last few years.  It works well for some, but it can aggravate any existing autoimmune conditions you may have.  I was on Nivolumab for 4 months but it did nothing for me, except leave my knees aching terribly, because I suffer from arthritis.  But I'm plodding along with eveything just fine at the moment.  I hope you get good results with it. Best of luck   Budgie        ... View more

Hi DeeDee8,   It is common.  I  think it's because people just don't know what to say to you.   They're afraid to ask how things are going because you might actually tell them & they'll feel horrible.   So people basically stop contact. Considering how widespread cancer is these days, it's actually pretty amazing that people are like this.   Budgie . ... View more

Hello hurt,   I'm sorry this has happened.   Did she have a change in medication or dose of the meds she's on?  I'm wondering if that could be the cause, otherwise, I'm at a loss to explain it as well.  It could be the anger & jealousy, knowing that she has a shorter lifespan than you, & having you there everyday is a constant reminder & she's taking it out on you!   I hope you can find a way to ease her feelings.  From what you've said, I take it she's not seeing a counsellor.  Perhaps it's what she needs - to find a way to channel her thoughts down a different path.  I don't suppose she would take the suggestion to seek help from you though - is there someone else that could suggest it to her?   Budgie ... View more

It's a shame that it seems to be only the 2 of us playing. I love word games. I am pretty sure I know what it is too, but, I'll take an 'F' please @Katekat. 🙂 ... View more