As with everything in life  -  it's all relative.   We all walk to a different drum. ... View more

How wonderful. Have you had bees before? Homegrown honey - YUM! 🐝🐝🐝 ... View more

Hi Aa1,   We all have broad shoulders & I  dare say you've not offended anyone here🙂. You & your family have certainly been thru the wringer.  It sounds like mine, with a lot of my immediate family members & previous generations having cancer. A doctor's foremost duty is to save lives, so no doubt they would have patted themselves on the back without a single thought of what was in store for those they saved.   Given your familial history of breast cancer, it was very wise to go the bilateral way & I hope things improve for you.   I totally agree with your last comments on humans - as a race, they destroy everything they touch.   Budgie  ... View more

I'm glad to hear that your feeling better Phil, & hope your wife makes a very speedy recovery.  It just goes to show that you really can't tell what's going to happen , so we need to live our lives to the fullest & enjoy each moment we have together.    I hope the stoma reversal goes well with no complications.   Take care & eat lots of cheese 🧀.    Budgie  ... View more

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Hi Lampwork54.   I'm so very sorry that you've had such a terribly stressful time, but you've come through the other side stronger & wiser, with a cute fairy to boot.  😊   ... View more

It sounds like you have a great support network around you. 😊 I also have 4 children, with 4 grandchildren & one on the way (the one on the way being to a different child).  They certainly bring a wonderful level of joy. Good luck with your treatment AprilMay.     ... View more

I totally understand your fear, & his.  When you're feeling absolutely wretched, & there's nothing in the world that can make you feel better; & feeling like this 24/7 - it's bloody awful.  It seems like there's no end in sight.   It saps all your will & strength to do anything. Has your husband had any contact with palliative care nurses?   They are a brilliant bunch of people who can offer lots of advice & suggestions on how to combat the side effects of chemo.  You should be able to get a referral from your hubby's oncologist or GP. They can also refer you to a counsellor or social worker if either or both of you would like to talk with someone.  There is also a great deal of info on this site on how others have dealt with the side effects.    Don't forget to take care of yourself, & your mental health, as you need taking care of too.   I hope your hubby changes his mind & attitude.  Attitude is a major part of beating cancer.  Please let us know how things progress.   Take care worriedwife    Budgie      ... View more

Hi Dmart83,   I'm very sorry for your loss Dmart83, but, your life is no less important than your brothers was.  We all have to discover our own path in life, & if it takes some people a bit longer, then it takes a bit longer.  Instead of kicking yourself, why don't you use this time in your life to make a conscious effort at making better choices?  Mistakes?  EVERYONE makes them!  You cannot grow in life if you make no mistakes.   Take it easy on yourself.   Budgie     ... View more

Hi Tania10,   I'm sorry for your loss.  It's never easy when you lose a loved one.    We all grieve differently, but you need to grieve & not hide it away.  You may have already done some of your grieving after his prognosis??   I don't know, but it does sound like you need to speak with someone, especially if your mind is blocking out your father's death.  Not much good could come of deferring it.   Try not to distract yourself from the thought of your father's death, but instead embrace it and see what happens.  It sounds like you have a very supportive & caring family around you, so you will have a lot of help when you need it, I think. I wish you all the best   Budgie ... View more