Hi Albundy21, I did 12 cycles of folfox. The last few sessions were definitely the worst. The loss of feeling actually got worse 2 weeks following completing all of my chemo.    When I first started chemo, the side effects would only last a couple of days.  But over time,  especially the last few cycles,  there was no relief.   Twelve months on and I still have feeling loss in my hands and feet.    -Sch ... View more

Hi Glenno, This is great to hear. I think that humour can be good at diffusing an otherwise tense conversation. Hopefully she's mostly managed to bash you back in to shape by now.   -s   ... View more

Hi Rick, I think the pressure, responsibility and workload probably tends to lead them to not spending too much time joking around. I've found that their sense of humour is best described as "dry". -s ... View more

Hi Glenno, Welcome to the community with many people who have lived through shit times! 🤣 Seriously though, congratulations Glenno on getting to where you have. How long until you complete your operations?   -sch ... View more

Somethings in life in just come out of nowhere. Where to start? I am so sorry.   I don't really know is my answer. I'm sorry. Have you asked him how he'd like to be remembered?   -sch ... View more

Hi Lampwork54,   Still waiting for those photos!   -sch ... View more

Hi Phil, Congratulations on the new job. Did you finish up the last job before you started chemo or was that a side effect of you being away from work for an extended period of time?   Sorry to hear about your troubles with Capecitabine. If it's not the cancer trying to kill you, it's the chemo having a good go at it too from the sounds of it. I have a new years resolution for you. Let's try and skip having cancer for 2020. Deal?   Some years are just plan crap. But if we didn't have shitty years, then how could we know just how good the good years are? I find that dealing with this sort of crap helps to provide us context in our everyday lives for just how bad things can be.   All the best Phil. Hope to cross paths with you one day.   -sch     ... View more

Hi Yasminemk,   I'm sorry to hear. I don't have breast cancer, but I can assure you that you are not alone. What treatment have you had so far? Do you have further treatment planned?   -sch ... View more

Hi SimpleAstronaut,   Based on the information I've read that you've written, I agree with CaptainAustrali. I would advise going to see a doctor or a surgeon and discuss with them what the treatment options are, if you haven't already.   Discuss with the same medical professionals what the monitoring options are. I know that it can feel utterly overwhelming. I get that. But now is the time to discuss with medical professionals what you and they can put in place to at least try and manage some of these risks.   -sch ... View more

Hi Claire19,   He has had a huge shock. One day he was fit and playing sport and the next he has cancer. Cancer means you are sick. His world has changed. He just wants to feel normal again. The problem is he needs to learn to adapt to a new normal. That's the tough part. When I was diagnosed with cancer I actually had planned to run an ultra marathon within the next 12 months. After discussing treatment options with my surgeon we both felt a total colectomy was the best option. Two days later and I'm starting to panic. If I have a total colectomy will I still be able to run that ultra? I started to think that perhaps the best option for me was to cancel the surgery?   That's not logical, but that is what was running through my mind. One day you're on top of the world and the next you have this awful sickness called cancer.   An observation I had was that has humans, we tend to define "who we are" by what we enjoy doing. I've found the key to helping me change was to concentrate on what I could do.   Perhaps your partner is angry but he is still trying to accept the changes. Maybe he is scared about what the cancer will mean for the future?   Perhaps you could ask one of his treatment team to discuss with him the benefits of seeing a therapist? Or see if he would attend a support group where he could discuss with others who have had to deal with similar issues?   -sch     ... View more