Hi Mel Sorry to hear of your husband's diagnosis. I am with you in taking one day at a time. It has been a good way for me to get through the bits that I need to get through. I try to deal with the "here and now" and be mindful of what the future might bring. As a carer, please don't forget to take time out for yourself. I hope that you have a good support network surrounding you and someone who can help out if and when you need it. Take care Julie ... View more

@ sarah ... I will reply on the weekend. Am tired this week and need to think a little clearly. Thank you! Julie ... View more

Hi Lorraine My condolences to you and your family. Julie xo ... View more

Hi Brooke I am sure you will find a lot of people who will understand what you are going through, or at least have an insight. Of course it is different for all of us in a way. Patients and carers go through different emotions and yet all with a similarity. I hope you find some comfort on this site and that it can help you deal with all that you are going through. Julie ... View more

Hi Sarah It is awful and yet it isn't always like this. In this instance it is a supervisor that is being "awful". I wont be with this particular supervisor for much longer, am hoping the end of this week will be it. I think some of it is down to someone being a supervisor and who is not very aware and quite possibly has been treated that way themselves. Workplace bullying is rife in the industry that I am in. It is slowly but surely being cleaned up. The bosses are aware of my cancer as I still have to go for checkups and my big boss has had cancer himself. I dont really have the energy or headspace at the moment to be doing much about this and am choosing the path of least resistance and just laughing outwardly when inside I really want to just scream. 🙂 My gosh re that woman you were out with the other night. I cannot believe that someone could actually think that!! I don't know how I would react to a comment such as that. Time for you to start seeking out new friends?? 🙂 It is hard, as this illness takes its toll on us in ways that most people will never understand. I am thinking about saying something about my situation but will choose my time and words and need to be speaking when I am less tired. Or else it will come out all wrong and probably create a situation that will be unwanted by everyone. ... View more

Thank you SIlly and it is wonderful to see how many people do care and for me that helps to offset all those that don't understand much at all. :) Julie ... View more

@ silly Yes, I totally agree and reality is that I should point this out to this fellow, however, when I have made it clear I do not wish to sit in a vehicle with someone smoking and he continues to do it, I just figure it would be useless saying anything. hopefully, I will not be working with him for much longer. Julie ... View more

Lots of goodies in the hamper. Moisturisers to chocolate and biscuits and even some smart containers with lids that have room to grow (or something like that). Visited another relay for life fund raiser today and bought a bear. Julie ... View more

@ sarah ... that there are !! :) @ loz ... omg, so sorry to hear your mum is going back for a 2nd cancer. It is tough doing it a 2nd time around! Trying not to worry about the "richard cranium" but at times I get tired and it does get to me. Today is Sunday and I am not worried ... ask me next Thursday or Friday. haha Julie ... View more

loz That is a tough one and something that I am currently experiencing at work at the moment. We have a guy who thinks it is funny to get people to repeat things. Which to someone who does not have a speech problem is most likely quite funny. However, for me who struggles with speech clarity at times and who has no saliva and sometimes speaking is an effort, it is just not funny most of the time! Of course it is a humorous thing to do to someone, yet, it is an effort to have to explain to people. We talked about shaving under arms and I explained I only shave one armpit as I cant get a razor into the great hole that is now my right arm pit ... once again it bought much mirth. I guess it is funny and yet I don't particularly find it so at all. :) I wonder if people will ever understand and when it comes to that they actually have to "want" to understand and for most people that will not happen because it means they have to face their biggest fears about cancer and their own morbidity. Julie ... View more