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hey there, i find there's not many young adults on this site... i didnt attend the young adults night but would be great to chat to you! im a career im 24 years old.. its tough being young, it has its pros and cons with cancer...

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yeah i was reading somewhere that it can increase cancer cells 😕 maybe best stay away?

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just wondering if anybody has used this essiac treatment before?

maddie86

hey all.. havent been on here in a while... my lovely boyfriend got diagnosed with stage four bowel cancer a bit over a year ago... had had chemo and radio (both worked well) then the big op to remove his bowel tumor.. which resulted in him having a colostomy bag... he then had an op to remove his liver mets.. i think there were two.. that worked and no evidence of the disease anywhere else... next was the lungs.. the right lung had disease but after chemo it wasnt seen on a scan... so they did his left lung and removed two mets... they took out a lymph node which was suspicious but there was no cancer in that... now when he went for his 3 monthly scan there was 3 visable spots on his right lung... so back in to hospital he goes! its just so draining watching him going through all of this.. we just want to get on with our lives.. we're both young 23 and 24.. we want to settle down and he wants to go back to work.. but we cant with all this... now what are we supposed to do? shit ourselves everytime he has a scan? his oncologist says the cancer could pop up anywhere in the body because it was an agressive type... its not fair 😞 just when we think its over.. bam! you get hit with it again! finding it very hard.. we were doing so well.. although we knew he might have to go back in we just didnt want to think about it.. feeling very blue

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no worries 🙂 its very hard to talk to other people because they dont understand.. my partner and i are both in our young twenties so there arnt a lot of ppl around us that have been through what we have... reading in the sun sounds very good! its the small things that count i reckon.. making sure you do little things for yourself... i also know when my partner is going through a tired stage, or sick stage it effects your health to.. if they have an up day then you do as well, if they have a down day then you follow along.. its a big emotional rollercoaster, but hang on because things do eventually get a whole lot easier... i remember for the first couple of months i cried and cried and thought id never stop.. you kind of get used to the idea of 'living with cancer' and it becomes your life.. now for the rest of our life we will be effected by this disease.. hoping and praying it never returns!! when my partner was having radiotherapy it was actually easier than chemo.. he didnt feel tired or sick with it just burnt... it was a lot like sun burn actually! if you ever want to ask me more questions you can! glad i can help in some way :) all the best!

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hi there and welcome! i to am supporting my partner, he had stage 4 bowel cancer but is pretty much in remission one year on 🙂 its tough.. it puts a major strain on your relationship.. there were times i can say i felt like walking away.. radiotherapy and chemo made him grumpy.. he was in pain, felt tired and sick.. i used to make time for myself tho.. call friends, go for coffees, see a movie.. do things that make you relax and make you happy.. we fought a lot but it brought us closer.. we now know we can get thru anything together.. be as patient as you can, times can b testing!! im always here for a chat 🙂

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hi there, my boyfriend has just had a horrible year of bowel cancer, surgeries chemo and radiotherapy.. id say before all this he wasnt to keen on the idea of marriage.. and now he tells me he cant wait to marry me.. i guess you realize what means the most to you and whats important... he knows ive been there all along.. i have also read that people in relationships live longer than those that are single.. wether or not its true i dont know, but it does help to have someone to lean on 🙂

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hey there, i to can relate to where your coming from.. having a spouse thats got cancer is really not easy.. then you strat to forget about yourself.. i put off my own health for ages.. ignoring when i was sick or needed some time out etc... its not good though! please go and check yourself out! i have also been taking st johns wart which has really helped me with depression.. you dont feel as teary all the time and feel like your head is a bit clearer.. best of luck to you 🙂

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thank you for all your replies.. i am feeling better, the st johns wart is working (when i remember to take it!).. today is the last operation for my boyfriend, he's just gone in to have two lung mets removed from his lung.. fingers crossed! ive been having a lot of bowel probs but i think stress and anxiety can do this to you.. i havent gotten in contact with the helpline but i did at the start of all this and the nurse was very helpfull to me.. i will contact them again soon 🙂

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hi there how old is your son? im sorry to hear of his diagnosis, but i can try and give you some tips if youd like.. my boyfriend is in his twenties battling cancer and its no easy pill to swallow.. weve had good days and bad days, he used to get angry a whole lot especially in chemo but he's much better now.. my best advice is to try not to take anything personally with him, thats if he is angry or getting snappy at you.. i agree with the above comment as to ask as many questions possible, you will feel more at ease knowing more information.. take care xo

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