HI GUYS TO THE COMMENT, SORRY I THINK I MAYBE FEELING A BIT RAW AT THAT TIME ... View more

I hope you hear from others with the same cancer or similar . I agree with the previous commrnt about being positive . I wasn't for a long while . I think you just deal with emotions the best way you can . I am amazed at people who seem to be positive all the time but feel sure all have down times . Talking here will help . If it becomes too much you could seek counselling . I know this doesn't appeal to many but I found it most helpful. It's worth a try . ... View more

I think these medical mistakes are not uncommon . Sometimes doctors don't seem to care as much as we think they ought but that's probably not true .That said, you do have to be your own advocate throughout ,which is what was said by Jules2. ... View more

Hi Daniel, If in the same situation, I would go back to my GP, or to the hospital's patient liaison person. The SYSTEM, as opposed to specific individuals, has dropped the ball with my treatment a couple of times, but we were able to work our way through to a positive outcome. I find the solution is to articulate and discuss in a non-confrontational manner, but state your position clearly - don't shirk the issue, and don't allow the practitioner to do so. Bring the issues into the open, perhaps with another practitioner (e.g., GP). So, I recommend your GP because they can advise on either course of action - be it working through your concerns, or referral to a new practitioner. Regards, Mark. ... View more

I admire your determination and persistance . You are very lucky to have such a good employer . I hope that some doctor can work out your health problem and fix it for you . ... View more

Hi Wombat, Wombat you are having a BAD time. I haven't lost my marriage partner so I wouldn't know what it would be like and how lost I would be if I was in this situation. I sympathise with you as the nightmare must be so dreadful and you would miss your wife so bad. I think you have 3 children too and they must miss their mother. I feel nervous with the message you put here and the way you put it as I am not looking forward to have my Colin pass away. I love him so much after nearly 40 years together. When this happens I would only have my son as I am isolated from them in WA. The isolation of not having my sisters and brother around me every day is in some what hard to handle sometimes. Glenys 00 ... View more

Thanks for your words of wisdom I was miserable until my counselor helped my realize that my body had been traumatized - its not just an operation! ... View more

I can so relate to everything you say. I "officially" resigned my job 3 weeks ago even though I had been off work for the past 10 months. I kept telling myself I would go back to work when I was better. I too feel guilty when I see others hard at work. I don't know how much time any of us have, but however much there is I am going to spend it doing stuff I want to do, not need to do. I am going to be here when my kids get home from school in the arvo's and have fun with them in school holidays. We have just had a nice family holiday overseas. If the worst does happen I don't want to have spent my time at work instead of with my family, where it really counts. I look at taking my Super in a lump sum now as being able to cover my lost wages and not adding more pressure on the family. There is enough stress dealing with this already. My doctor (who gave me the initial 12 months) has advised he can't see it spreading yet and seems quite pleased, but no-one has given me a new timeframe. I feel ok physically, even though my 12 months is up in 6 weeks time. I have also been advised mine is aggressive and incurable. Yet it hasn't spread yet, and google is still doom and gloom. I am grateful I am doing so good so far. I hope to be around for a long while yet. You can still concentrate on surviving this and living your life, but at least if they pay out your tpd benefit it will make life easier for you, and hopefully less stressful. Even if it means your dr has to pick a timeframe. Its definately worth having a look at what the conditions for your tpd benefit are. My prognosis timeframe is based on medical foundation, not on any willpower, positivity or determination foundation. I'm sure if they could measure this the prognosis would be a different story. The Timebomb theory. I certainly can understand that one. ... View more

Way to go Dan!!! ... View more