I agree with all the above. Years ago - when my mother was in her final couple of months - we weren't given the option of anythig like that, even if she would let us do it! Dad had to rig up a microphone so that we could hear her when she cried from the pain but wouldn't let us know. It is hard to watch someone close who is in pain and discomfort. Good luck to you and yes, be very proud of yourself, well done!! crafty ... View more

Take one day at a time, you will be suprised how quickly it becomes part of your life. Being there for your mum is most important & she will appreciate your support no end. Hope she will be feeling better as time goes on. ... View more

thankyou guys, i live 5hours away from mum and have been travelling back and fourth since this started my boss has been fantastic but work is just no concern to me at all, i would hate myself being at work and not being here its not what i want, but then its not about me is it!! we just had the call to say that chemo is starting on tues at 10am, im scared nervous and worried but she is happy that treatment is now going to starting and she can fight this. i just hope she gets out of it some comfort too. i feel very low and i know that she is going through this and it is her fight, but i feel really lost and unsure of where to go and what to do!!! i just want to be with her x ... View more

thankyou deb, i worry about my family fullstop, this site even though i have only signed up yesterday has already helped me i can say what i feel and there is no one to judge and best of all telling me to stop it and be positive and look on the bright side and the one i hate most of all telling me its ok, cause its not ok she isnt ok she is sick she has cancer and yeah she is having treatment and she is a strong person and the treatment may very well help, but she is still sick, she will still be sick and this is not going to go away ITS NOT A COLD.... thankyou so much xxx its great having someone who understands xox ... View more

Having supportive family makes a huge difference. It sounds like she is very lucky to have you by her side through this battle ahead of her. Facing fear and pain is never easy, if you can go to her appointments with her and talk to her nurses or doctors about what to expect, but remember everyone is different. Hugs to you Lou lou ... View more

Hi mel015 There are a huge lot of resources out there for people diagnosed with breast cancer and for those who care for them. Firstly the Cancer Helpline 13 11 20 - it is not just for the patients - it is for everyone. Give them a call and ask about resources. also ask if you and/or your Mum can talk to someone who has had a similar diagnosis and are through the treatment - that telephone peer support service is called Cancer Connect. Then the Breast Cancer Action Network has what is called the "My Journey Kit" get in touch with them and get a copy http://www.bcna.org.au. when you go to a hospital ask to see a breast cancer nurse. No other cancer has these people, but breast cancer does and they are there to help you and your Mum. There are also breast cancer support groups. What you are about to find out is that you will be strong enough for this. Hang in there, you will find support and the strength to manage all of this. Cheers Sailor As we sail thru life, don't avoid rough waters, sail on because calm waters won't make a skillful sailor. Anonymous ... View more