December 2013
Jill Im so sorry for your loss.Cling onto your memories hold them close as he would want you to.My heart goes out to you and your family. Cancer takes the good ones from us why I dont know.Im sure your husband put up a tremendous fight knowing that you were by his side would have eased alot of his pain.Take care of yourself and if you need to talk Im here to listen..x Jo.(stargazer)
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November 2013
Hi Miso....Im so sorry for your lost.My husband passed away in March of colon cancer which had spread to his liver he was only 52.We were married for almost 29 years.To loose my best friend to not have him beside me is very very tough.I did go to counsellors two different ones in fact.I think I could fill quiet a few oceans with the amount of crying Ive done which they say is all good.Ive read books Ive listened to people but at the end of it all my 2 children,and a close friend were my support and still are.The old cliche of each day gets better well you might not think it ever will it does.Dont feel alone Im always here for a chat.Take care.
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May 2013
My husband has been gone 11 weeks today.I miss him so much. The days do get easier and the crying well....I am doing well much better than I thought in fact I am proud of myself. I played songs today that were played at my husbands funeral and managed to listen to them without the tears.I sometimes describe grieving as a disease because it comes to you without warning.One minute your laughing next the tears will appear.Today I have felt really good but after finishing a conversation tonight with my 86 year old father in law it happened the tears.I absolutely hate the cancer so much for what it has done to my beautiful family.....tears again.....
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May 2013
Im so sorry for all your going through.Keep strong be as happy as can be. Enjoy every moment you have with your family. I will think of you. My heart goes out to you and all your family. Yes life is very short.
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May 2013
Im so sorry for all your going through.Keep strong be as happy as can be. Enjoy every moment you have with your family. I will think of you. My heart goes out to you and all your family. Yes life is very short.
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April 2013
Hi Krystle...thank you for your reply.Please take care my heart goes to you and your family.Treasure each day you have together and look after one another. Again thank you for your kind words. Stargazer..
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April 2013
Thank you Kylie Your reply was a comfort thank you.We too had a camper trailer like yor friend.Sadly we only used it twice then sold it as my husband wasnt strong enough to use it.Just tell them to enjoy as much time together now.I am thinking of your friend, her husband and you of course as you are suffering along with them.I too am always here to talk to.As I get more in control of myself and my life I hope to join more groups.Take care hope to talk soon Jo (stargazer)
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April 2013
Hi Kylie Your such a wonderful friend.I lost my husband 4 weeks ago.I cared for him for a year. Being there for your friend and listening to her is what she needs.Its extremely tough on not only the person suffering but everyone around.Being strong is hard but somehow we all manage to do it.I see your in SA Im not familar with whats on offer there. I know I got people make meals for my family which easeed the pressure on me.I often asked my husband towards the end if he would have liked a trip away his reply was always no as he wanted to wait till he got better. Sadly the cancer wouldnt let him.My advice check with your local palliative care or the hospital where hes being treated may have an idea.Hope that helps,please give your friend a hug for me.
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April 2013
Hi Kylie Your such a wonderful friend.I lost my husband 4 weeks ago.I cared for him for a year. Being there for your friend and listening to her is what she needs.Its extremely tough on not only the person suffering but everyone around.Being strong is hard but somehow we all manage to do it.I see your in SA Im not familar with whats on offer there. I know I got people make meals for my family which easeed the pressure on me.I often asked my husband towards the end if he would have liked a trip away his reply was always no as he wanted to wait till he got better. Sadly the cancer wouldnt let him.My advice check with your local palliative care or the hospital where hes being treated may have an idea.Hope that helps,please give your friend a hug for me.
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March 2013
I have'nt been on here for awhile so here I am.Last time I wrote my story of my son going through his cancer in 2011 and how we got the all clear with him only to find out my husband was diagnosed two weeks later with cancer. Although it was a different form.That was a year ago.In five days my chidren and I will be laying him to rest.He passed away last Wednesday the 13th.He's at peace I know there is no more pain for him but it's so hard.When he was diagnosed we were told maybe 3-5 years he'd have.He started chemo straight away for three months it reduced the tumours but we always knew they would never leave.After the three months he was on the tablets but sadly they did not work.Next was more harsher chemo this time that was'nt working either.Six weeks ago chemo was stopped he did"nt have long.From the very start he suffered alot of side effects you name it he had them all.The worst was nureopathy in his hands and feet.In the end his body gave up on him and it was quick and peaceful.We have been married 28 wonderful years two beautiful adult chidren.He was the most wonderful man, so special. My son was only 23 when he was struck done with ewings sarcoma cancer on his spine he had no movement from the chest down for four months.His treatment was 12 chemo cycles and 31 days radiation and months of rehabltation and many hospital stays.He is now 25,cancer free although there is the ongoing checks of course,fighting fit.He rode in the Conquer For Cancer ride in October last year. My husband had cancer of the colon,liver and lungs. He was'nt a drinker or smoker. We knew this was coming but nothing prepares you for it, it hits hard and it hurts. This site is great for anybody to write when they can't sleep, like me or to talk get it off your mind like me or just to read like me. I've been a carer for my son then my husband I did everything for them. Now its all stopped its weird.
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