May 2019
Thanks Tam what a beautiful phrase has brought me to tears again. Dads birthday today so I suppose I got through the day yes the gut wrenching pain is relentless... thanks for taking the time to msg me. Cheers Ben
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May 2019
2 Kudos
Hi Tam I'm truly sorry for the loss of your father. I lost my father 2 months ago today and he was my best mate we were very close I looked after him 24/7 for the last 4 months of his life and like you I'm struggling to cope and manage with him not being here anymore. His pain was terrible.. I too thought cause we were so close I would feel him around or close when he passed but nothing at all which makes it all so much harder. I struggle to get out of bed and barely leave the house and really don't like who I am as I know my father would be upset to see me hurting so much. Just wanted to reach out as I understand the hurt and pain you are going through. Ben
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May 2019
1 Kudo
Hi Tom I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother I lost my father to colon cancer 2 months ago ... he was my best mate in life and his loss has been very hard to cope with. I looked after him 24/7 for the last 4 months of his life so reading your story of your brother made me want to reach out just so you know people care.. I lost my cousin to cancer as well she was 18 years old. I truly wish you all the best trying to get through this as we both know it's very difficult to say the least .. take care
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May 2019
Hi Peter I am so sorry for your loss I understand the pain and frustration trying to deal with such grief. I lost my father to colon cancer 2 months ago and was his full time carer . He was my best friend and losing him has broken me and like you I hate being a sad sack but some days it's hard to be anything otherwise. I wish you all the best . Cheers Ben
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May 2019
2 Kudos
Hi my father passed away 2 months ago today from colon cancer and today is also his birthday. I was his full time carer for the last 4 months of his life so he could stay at home in his own surroundings where he was comfortable. This disease is horrendous on sufferers family and carers my father was my best mate in this world it was only me and him from when I was a child so the pain of his loss is unbearable.. I left my job to look after him so he could be at home til the end . I have no regrets as we spent those last 4 months together and trying to support one another like we did throughout life although I now have the task of trying to rebuild my life . I have no job , financially ruined and most days struggle to get out of bed. I haven't left the house in 5 weeks, I don't have any real friends and the people I do know change the subject every time I try and discuss my dad or what watching him die has done to me. I have lost several family members and friends to this disease and I understand that so many people are going through what I am and so many people are suffering from cancer.. I keep to myself but I thought it might help posting here to try and talk about my feelings and share with others suffering loss of a loved one. Where to from here I don't know my prayers and thoughts are with everyone affected by this horrible disease .....
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March 2019
5 Kudos
I posted on this site about 2 months ago as carer for my father who is also my best mate. unfortunately he passed away yesterday morning after fighting this disease with everything he had. I now have the struggle of trying to live my life without the person who was most important to me..... I wish everyone on this site all the best with looking after loved ones and especially people fighting this illness ... my heart and prayers are with you all..
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March 2019
Hi i completely understand what you are going though . I have been my fathers full time carer for the past 3 months and it has been extremely difficult. He has been admitted to hospital on Tuesday with only days left now and I'm still not ready to say goodbye. So I wanted to reach out so you know there are people that are feeling what you feel and we are all on this site to support each other anyway we can. I wish you all the very best in an extremely difficult situation. Xo
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January 2019
2 Kudos
Hi everyone out there who has this horrible disease or is caring for a loved one suffering this illness. I am caring for my father and have come to another state to do this and walked away from my job as there was no one to care for him. It's now 5am in the morning and another night with no sleep I have been here for over a month now and find it very lonely.... my dad is my best mate in the world and I would do anything for him I suppose I'm just struggling with the situation at hand as he is. It's stage 4 and he is nearing the end of this life's journey and it's breaking my heart. The palliative care team that does house calls in this state have been hopeless and everything necessary for meds, syringes etc I have to take care of.... I just needed to write down my feelings to try and release so I don't break down myself... best wishes to everyone out there on this site as I understand the struggles and suffering you are going through xo
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January 2019
2 Kudos
Hi Meek My father was diagnosed approx 5 months ago and is terminal. I walked away from my job about 1 1/2 months ago as he has deteriorated rapidly and was hospitalised about a month ago for a week when we thought we would lose him then. I care for him 24/7 as he needs assistance with almost everything I have found my new role as a carer quite challenging and extremely lonely existence. And yes financially it is very difficult as I've had to apply for Centrelink now. Although there are several issues to face I am getting to spend valuable time with my father in his final chapter of life which is heartbreaking but also rewarding that I can be there to help and so he knows his not alone in this journey. I wish you all the best with your decision. cheers
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