Hi, how are you?  Felt really worried about you as you seem like you are really struggling with the fear of cancer,  you were amazing how you could write it all down. Very impressive.  Lots of thoughts that we all feel but don’t have your courage, so thank you.     Hope you gage have received all the medical information that you need that will give you strength.  Biggest advice........  breathe,    Inhale......exhale........ 10 times.....   Please take care, xxxxxxxxxx ... View more

Hi, how are you?  Yes it is definitely not how we planned our lives.  Especially with our wonderful adored grandchildren.  How is your treatment going?  You need personal space to come to terms with your diagnosis.  Be kind to yourself.  It is probably even acceptable to be selfish.  I actually feel less guilty when I choose not to go to a gathering now.     I am in a better place now, probably only because I just don’t go there.  Be positive.  Care less about little things.  Be thankful and we have plenty of time to deal with things when we have to.  I have been told that I have 2-5 years to live due to breast cancer that has mestatised to the bones and also stage 4.      Once you you get used to the routine of treatment and get used to the diagnosis I hope it gets easier.  Don’t rush it.  I found out in March the severity and I have got used to it now,  good luck!!! ... View more

How difficult for you.  People choose to do things for us and then we feel indebted.  I worry about you because you don’t need this stress.  You have been through so much.  I struggle sometimes hearing how our cancers affect other people so much, but that is hardly our fault.  Definitely a hard one.  Your friend maybe is just exhausted from it all too.  I would write a letter to your friend and just put it out there.  You may give it to your friend, you may not.    You have dealt with worse than this now, cancer/treatment, emotions - stand strong!!?,  xxxx ... View more

Hi,  I am sorry you are all going through this.  You are amazing to be so proactive to help your mother.  It must be extremely hard for you all.  I had breast cancer 17 years ago and now it has metastasised to my bones.  I have been given 2-5 years to live.  I am glad your mum has her parents to look after her.  I have no parents, family support, my 2 kids are too busy even though they love me.   it would be my pleasure to chat with your mum.  I too am very lonely and sit here night after night alone feeling sorry for myself.     Please take care care and by proud of yourself.  Xx ... View more

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Ben, I am so so sorry.  I can not imagine what you are going through and what you have gone through.  I hope you have support around you.  Devastated.  Please take care.  Xxxxxx ... View more

I am sorry you feel this way. I wonder whether we are vulnerable due to our condition and that it is not that people don’t care or want to spend time with us, is  it that we are living with diagnosis 24/7 and they aren’t.  Their life keeps going and ours stands still sometimes.  I feel very lonely too.   Please take care.  Xxxx ... View more