Hi mel741, I'm truly sorry that you can't be with your mum. By the time she's 24hrs from death she may not be responsive, as things can change quickly, and that's precious time you've missed with her. I know it would never be the same, but would it be possible for you to set up FaceTime or Skype so at least she can see & speak with more than one of you at a time? You all have my best wishes. Budgie ... View more

I understand how hard it is to walk this path alone with a lot of worries! But I think with the little hope & positiveness, it will become somewhat easy to fight with cancer. sometimes will power play a most important role to fight with any disease, so be beside him & give him mental support it will surely strengthen his will power. Btw Good luck with the upcoming appointment! I hope you'll get good news next week. Best wishes! ... View more

I totally get where you are coming from, it makes me so sad about the things that I won’t get to ask her and she won’t get to see. I just keep trying to make the most of it all. Great idea with the videos, I might start doing that. ... View more

Hi mel741,   What a horrible situation. I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum. Yes, it can be very difficult for the doctors to give any realistic idea of how long your Mum will be with you for. I think that if it is important to you that you have your Mum at your wedding (and it sounds like it is), then perhaps explain to your Mum that it is important to you and your fiancée that she is able to witness the ceremony and that you'll hold an earlier ceremony with her, but that you'll also hold  another ceremony that she can also attend if she feeling well enough. Just a thought.   -sch ... View more

Hi Carol   I only just saw your post but I could have written the exact same thing a week ago. I felt so helpless. My Mum is 67 and has a terminal diagnosis for bowel cancer. She was in agonizing pain (could hardly focus on a conversation because the pain was too intense) until we contacted the palliative care team. They arranged for MUCH stronger pain relief, which has made an immense difference.   From your latest post it sounds like the sedative has helped things, but if things change then I recommend you keep asking her medical team what else can be done. I wish we'd pushed harder to get her better pain medication earlier. I really hope her doctors can get her pain under control so she's more comfortable.   Sending love your way ... View more