Such a disappointment for you ! I suppose you have to forgive him considering what he's going through . I know that you are going through a lot as well but he just wasn't thinking about that when he made his plans . Perhaps you can still have your celebration together and with a better outcome . ... View more

I'm so sorry that the doctor will not remove the lump to give you peace of mind but maybe he's doing the right thing . I don't know . I guess you'll have to forget about it for a while like you said . I'm impressed about your bike ride . Wow ! I bought a second hand bicycle a couple of years ago to see if I could ride as I'd onlytried it once since I was 8 years old (sometime in my 30's ) and wasn't very good then. My childhood bike didn't even have gears . Anyway I rode it once, but where we live I need to be able to ride uphill or downhill from our driveway and both are too scary and uphill too hard ,so that's the end of that . I'm happy enough about the eye now . I will send you a private message about your Christmas visit . ... View more

I'm so sorry that the doctor will not remove the lump to give you peace of mind but maybe he's doing the right thing . I don't know . I guess you'll have to forget about it for a while like you said . I'm impressed about your bike ride . Wow ! I bought a second hand bicycle a couple of years ago to see if I could ride as I'd onlytried it once since I was 8 years old (sometime in my 30's ) and wasn't very good then. My childhood bike didn't even have gears . Anyway I rode it once, but where we live I need to be able to ride uphill or downhill from our driveway and both are too scary and uphill too hard ,so that's the end of that . I'm happy enough about the eye now . I will send you a private message about your Christmas visit . ... View more

I am so sorry to see this . Mothers and daughters mostly have a special relationship as I have with my daughter . All I can say is continue being there for her as you already have been . At times take a break, when you can ,so you can look after your emotional well being . ... View more

Sorry I have no knowledge of this . Maybe some of the guys who went through the same will have ideas. I use Lyrica for nerve pain,in a different place . I take a 75mg in the morning and a 150mg at night but am planning to swap the 150mg for a 75mg soon . ... View more

I really don't know what I can say to help . Of course your dad's pain is over but I know yours is still there ,but it will be different . You can always be sure that you did all you could to help and show your dad how much you loved him . ... View more

I know what you mean about some people understanding some of this . It's much better to talk here as most will understand all you say . It then feels as though you are being heard . All the best . ... View more

That's great . You won't miss the travel and the chemo itself .I can imagine you will miss the people there for a while . I missed the people involved with radiation when I finished mine . That was two years ago . Now you begin a new phase . Enjoy it . ... View more

I am sorry about your dad's diagnosis . Between surgery and radiation and/or chemo I think there is nearly always a gap of weeks . Often it is recovery from surgery time ,sometimes other reasons .I had about 10 weeks between surgery and radiation as I had to recover from surgery and then got to see about radiation My ENT told me when to make an appointment with the radiation /oncologist . Then there was a lot of planning required and even later the starting date was moved because it was a difficult case they told me and a few more days were needed. The waiting is often the hardest because we want it all done in a hurry . If you have concerns never hesitate to ask the doctor or the hospital who is handling your dad's case. You may not get answers straightaway but it may happen sooner . It's good that your mum and dad have you to help . It is a frightening thing to have a cancer diagnosis . Lots of support is needed. Your dad's gp may be able to help with some things too . I think gps so much more accessible . All the best . ... View more

I certaimly don't see you as a whinging princess. We all have things to say but cannot say to others in our lives . Before I found online support ,I felt that the first opportunity to express myself fully was talking to someone from the Cancer Council on the phone ,prior to arranging counselling through them . The lady I spoke to listened for over an hour and responded in such a way that I felt huge relief. That was about 8 months after my diagnosis. I had said bits and pieces to different people but this was like getting it all off my chest at one time . It was overwhelmingly emotional too. I hope that the confusion regarding your arms is sorted out soon so that may be dealt with too. You have a lot going on at the same time . I'm sure you'll get what you need from this site . There are so many caring people here . ... View more