Hi StayPositive,   You can try calling Healthdirect on 1800 022 222.   It is manned by nurses 24/7, & they should be able to advise you on what to do.    Budgie ... View more

Hi V1k1,   I am very sorry for your loss, & to lose him after everything you both went through is like rubbing salt into a wound.   Big hugs  ❤️   Budgie ... View more

Hi FrankTheTank,   I am very sorry for your father's illness.   Cancer is a terrible disease, but you can be realistic & remain positive at the same time.  It may be hard in some cases, but it is possible.   Yes, it is a very good idea to get both of your parents involved with this forum, as the more information they can gather the better they will be armed to deal with situations that arise.   Tallking with people who suffer in the same or similar ways, can only be a good thing.    Don't forget about looking after your health as well, both physical & mental health.  A lot of carers are so busy looking after their partner/family member (or whoever) & they forget to take care of themselves.     I don't know anything about the cancer your father has but I do know that the prognosis the doctors give are only timelines they THINK will happen.  So much depends on the person's strength of will to live, their determination to keep on going.  It is important to keep up a good diet & drink plenty of water, & excercise as best they can.   I do hope all the best for your father.   Budgie ... View more

Hi debbru, It’s because even though there’s no visible remnants of the tumour, there’s the risk on some infected cells remaining.   When they do surgery, they like to take a margin of healthy tissue surrounding the deposit site just to make sure they’ve got it all.   Even then, there’s no guarantee that it hasn’t already spread through the blood.    Budgie     ... View more

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Thanks for your prayers, StayPositive, & I intend to keep as positive as I can.  I have too much to live for to be dwelling on negatives. It's good that the RCC is in it's early stages.   Depending on where the tumour is in the kidney they may just be able to ablate it without too much invasion.  The good thing about the kidney is that your body only needs about 20% of one to function properly (so I was told by a surgeon).   My brother is also a 2 cancer surviver.  He's had prostate & kidney cancer.  Luckily for him, the tumour on his kidney was on the outside of it, & fairly small.  His GP is wondering if it's hereditary in our family, as it's a rare cancer & to have it in 2 people in the one immediate family is very unusual.  Anyway, I'm glad they've found it early for you.    I live on the Werribee side of Melbourne.   Budgie     ... View more

Hi StayPositive Welcome to this not so auspicious club 😉.    I understand what you’re feeling as I worry about my hubby after I die.   Like you, we have no friends outside of the family unit that are close in distance to us.   We just haven’t had the need or inclination to make any.   The “friends” we do have aren’t very supportive, so we tend to steer clear of them.    He says he’ll be fine when I’m gone & I know he’ll keep himself busy.   But there are times when you just need someone, even if it’s just for the company.    Do you mind if I ask what type of kidney cancer you have?  I have Renal Cell Carcinoma which has metastasised.    Budgie   ... View more

Hello lornamacintyre,   Please don't feel so bad.  I too am terminal & it is very hard knowing you are dying, but not knowing exactly how much time you have.  I don't dwell on it though.  While I have life left in my body I will enjoy each day as it comes, to the best of my ability.   I have too many things I want to do before I die;  I have lots of craft projects that I need to finish, but each day/week just flies by.  Life is too short at the best of times to let it go by without enjoying as much of it as you can.   Everyone is dying, it's just a matter of when & how that differs. You said you don't want to live waiting to die......First thing to do is get out of those PJs.  If it's a sunny day, have breakfast outside in the sunshine 🌞 - I find that always cheers me up.  Go for a walk through a park or somewhere, just to get out of the house.   Talk to someone about how you are feeling.   There are plenty of people who will listen.  Remember - you are not alone.  😊   Budgie ... View more

Hi Frankie,   You will probably be very sore for a while yet - probably a good 4-6 weeks till you're feeling well enough.  Be patient with your body & your mind.   Eat as well as you can & keep as active as you can without overdoing things & you will start feeling a bit better.      Be patient with your hubby too, as he's probably worried about you but doesn't know exactly how to help you, & he would be upset that he can't do anything to take your pain away.   I certainly hope things improve for you soon. Take care 😊   Budgie ... View more

At least you have some answers now. I hope things go well for him.  Take care Budgie ... View more