Hi Claire19, I think part of your husbands problem is that he wants everything to get back to normal. For those who have cancer, I don't think you can ever return to the normal of before, but have to re-adjust after each different medication. Even after all treatment is finished there is never really any going back to the pre-cancer normal. Chemo drugs can have this effect on some people, so it would be worth telling the oncologist. They may be able to lower the dose or change drugs. Counselling would be a great thing for both of you, & you can get a referal from the oncologist the GP, as well as the lovely people from Cancer Council. I hope things improve for you soon. There is a thread on this site that you should read through, if you haven't already, which may give some helpful advice: HOW TO DEAL WITH A LOVE ONE'S ANGER? All the best Budgie
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