Hi Lampwork54,   Still waiting for those photos!   -sch ... View more

Hi Phil, Congratulations on the new job. Did you finish up the last job before you started chemo or was that a side effect of you being away from work for an extended period of time?   Sorry to hear about your troubles with Capecitabine. If it's not the cancer trying to kill you, it's the chemo having a good go at it too from the sounds of it. I have a new years resolution for you. Let's try and skip having cancer for 2020. Deal?   Some years are just plan crap. But if we didn't have shitty years, then how could we know just how good the good years are? I find that dealing with this sort of crap helps to provide us context in our everyday lives for just how bad things can be.   All the best Phil. Hope to cross paths with you one day.   -sch     ... View more

Hi Yasminemk,   I'm sorry to hear. I don't have breast cancer, but I can assure you that you are not alone. What treatment have you had so far? Do you have further treatment planned?   -sch ... View more

Hi SimpleAstronaut,   Based on the information I've read that you've written, I agree with CaptainAustrali. I would advise going to see a doctor or a surgeon and discuss with them what the treatment options are, if you haven't already.   Discuss with the same medical professionals what the monitoring options are. I know that it can feel utterly overwhelming. I get that. But now is the time to discuss with medical professionals what you and they can put in place to at least try and manage some of these risks.   -sch ... View more

Hi Claire19,   He has had a huge shock. One day he was fit and playing sport and the next he has cancer. Cancer means you are sick. His world has changed. He just wants to feel normal again. The problem is he needs to learn to adapt to a new normal. That's the tough part. When I was diagnosed with cancer I actually had planned to run an ultra marathon within the next 12 months. After discussing treatment options with my surgeon we both felt a total colectomy was the best option. Two days later and I'm starting to panic. If I have a total colectomy will I still be able to run that ultra? I started to think that perhaps the best option for me was to cancel the surgery?   That's not logical, but that is what was running through my mind. One day you're on top of the world and the next you have this awful sickness called cancer.   An observation I had was that has humans, we tend to define "who we are" by what we enjoy doing. I've found the key to helping me change was to concentrate on what I could do.   Perhaps your partner is angry but he is still trying to accept the changes. Maybe he is scared about what the cancer will mean for the future?   Perhaps you could ask one of his treatment team to discuss with him the benefits of seeing a therapist? Or see if he would attend a support group where he could discuss with others who have had to deal with similar issues?   -sch     ... View more

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Hi Amelia, I'm very sorry to hear about your brother, and the hardships and difficulties that you've obviously had as the care giver. I think that you are to be commended for the love and care you have for your brother. My heart goes out to you.   Regarding the questionnaire, this document is sitting on google docs. This means that each person that is going to update this document, you will need to specifically grant them access via their google account. It then may not necessarily be as anonymous as you had hoped.   Thanks, Sean     ... View more

Yes, they always take longer than you would hope! Try to find something else to occupy yourself until the results come in. I hope you get the results you are hoping for.   -sch ... View more

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Hi April,   I'm sorry to hear this. I agree with Budgie. I'd like to hear more about your you! How were you diagnosed? Who are the people that you need to be strong for?   -sch     ... View more