Why my parents?

[frangapani75]

I suppose this is a question everyone asks. Well my dad was diagnosed in July with stage 4 non-Hopkins lymphoma. He was doing well with his treatment and then my mum got really sick. She was going to the dr continually but he could find nothing wrong. I go there Friday to drop my son off as they look after him while I work and there is my mum struggling to breath. I call a ambulance and she is rushed to hospital. She was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach and liver cancer. My mum is my world. How am I going to cope???

[Jules2]

Hi frangipani75 I think most people ask themselves that question whether they are the one's diagnosed or family of the person. My mum answered me when I asked her that on my first cancer diagnosis and she said "you will cope, you will dig deep and get through this" and she was right, I did. I think if we can maintain a healthy attitude throughout all the this then we are half way there. My best to you. Julie

[SILLY]

As bas as all can seem most of us do manage to cope . Use any support offered and give as much support to your parents as you can . I wish you well.

[little_stitcher]

Hi Frangipani, what a c**p load you've been handed. I haven't got any answers for you, and it is a question we all ask. All I can tell you is that you won't be alone. Lots of love and (((hugs))) Emily

[kj]

frangapani75 Words can't express properly the trauma and emotions your family will be going through at this moment, so I wish you and your parents all the best for the times ahead. kj

[Pamela]

Frangapani, life is just so hard at times; I am so sorry your family is facing this. Prayers of strength and comfort to you all, Pamela 🙂

[Jellybean]

Hi Frangipani75 I am sorry to hear about your parents...we are in the same predicament. You have identified a lot of my fears about how my 3 children are being affected by both my husband and I having cancer. My husband was diagnosed in Dec 2008 and I was diagnosed in Dec2012. I hate the fact they are having to deal with our cancers. I feel very saddened that the cancers that we have put a damper on their young lives when they should have care- free times( two in their 20's and one in early 30' s) ! They are all very close to us and although we don't live close to any of them they text, email,phone and Skype us many times each week. My mother also had a philosophy on life similar to Julie's mum . Her philosophy was that we have to accept and live as best we can with the "cards" that we have been dealt in life...and in turn get on with life as best you can. So that is what we are all trying and we are very honest with our chn and tell them all the medical info too. I think having a depth of understanding helps them ...well so they say. You will find the strength to cope and remember to have plenty of laughs with them as I know it helps me and them . I am sorry too that you have to cope/ deal with this...it is not fair is it! Jellybean

[frangapani75]

Thank you everyone, it's said to say that only a week after being diagnosed my beloved mum and best friend passed away

[SILLY]

I am so sorry that you have lost your mum and so suddenly . Having what she had would have been a lot to bear ,even for a short time . My thoughts are with you and your dad .

[Jellybean]

Woops ..just saw my error in a reply to you frangipani 75! I was diagnosed in December 2011 ...of course ! Not 2012!! ..a seniors moment typing error is my excuse!

[Jellybean]

Oh I am so sorry to hear that frangipani75... I only just noticed your post. That was cruel to you all for her to pass away so quickly. Take care and remember all the precious times. Thinking of you with .

[kj]

frangipani75 So sorry to read of the passing of your mum so soon after diagnosis my sympathy to you and the family kj

[Jules2]

fraginapani I am sorry to hear of your loss. Such a shock for you all and I hope that you are travelling ok. My thoughts are with you and your family. hugss Julie