Hi Sophie, this is such an awful time, and the only thing I can definitely tell you is that there is no normal. Everyone reacts differently in situations like this, there is no right or wrong way to feel or act. Please be gentle with yourself. Your reactions are completely valid (even if you always don't understand them!)and you'll do the best you can with each day as it is. Feel free to come here to vent and get support. Hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi Sophie, this is such an awful time, and the only thing I can definitely tell you is that there is no normal. Everyone reacts differently in situations like this, there is no right or wrong way to feel or act. Please be gentle with yourself. Your reactions are completely valid (even if you always don't understand them!)and you'll do the best you can with each day as it is. Feel free to come here to vent and get support. Hugs, Emily ... View more

This just sucks so bad. I wish I could say something to help, but I'm just sending big, supportive hugs over the internet. Emily ... View more

Cancer changes relationships just as much as life expectancies. I noticed what you're experiencing, that most support services are for the patient, or helping the carers be good carers, rather than addressing the grief and loss that partners feel when someone is diagnosed with cancer. Even if your partner is not interested in improving things, you still have the right to the support you need, so maybe consider having counselling just for you. Your partner may not be interested in discussing these things just yet, but this may change in the future. You're not being selfish at all! It's very easy to feel guilty about looking after your own needs in this situation, but they're just as legitimate as anyone else's, and, let's face it, no one else will! : S Hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi beautiful, your story sounds so familiar to me. My husband was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin lymphoma, and I felt that the world had fallen apart. I won't tell you that it will be ok (because who knows, right?), but I will promise you that you're not alone. Feel free to send me a Private Message here on the website.. 'One day at a time' is such a cliche, but it really is useful advice- just keep going forward, and eventually you'll look back and realise how far you've come. Love and hugs, Emily ... View more

I'm so sad that you all have to go through this. Hugs, Emily. ... View more

That's fantastic!! I wish you all the best of luck. xx ... View more

Hi Pam, the white blood cell transfusion is something his doctors should be able to organise. They will let you know if you need to ask around for specifically matching donors (family etc.). Do be sure to as the doctors all your questions, though, and make sure you get satisfactory answers. Good luck with everything, love Emily ... View more

That sounds brilliant! Art is such a good 'coping mechanism' (of course, it's so much more, as well). Is your book on sale anywhere? ... View more

Hi Lynne, your blog title caught my eye, as this was my husband's philosophy after his diagnosis (non-Hodgkin's lymphoma) and chemotherapy. Tell me more about your book! love Emily ... View more