Hi ribs, How are you? It's a terrible situation, & I feel for you. Have things improved in the past week, now that the stress of having cancer has gone, has his attitude toward you changed for the better? Do you think he will revert to how he was before the cancer diagnosis? Budgie ... View more

You've made me cry with your story about the little boy. I'm sorry for your situation. Life's a bitch, but we love it, don't we. We put up with a hell of a lot of pain just to live another day. I'm extremely grateful for each & every day I wake up & get to share it with my husband. I hope your situation improves as time goes by. Budgie ... View more

Ouch, looks very sore.  Heal up well.   Budgie ... View more

Hi AlfHam, I was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer (MRCC) back in August of 2012. Mine had already spread, which is how it was found. Kidney cancer, if it's left untreated, will usually spread upwards in the body, affecting the lungs, liver, spleen, brain & bones....usually. So, it probably has nothing to do with your toe being swollen. If it gets in your bones, it will be very painful. I have bone mets in a couple of my ribs, my right jaw & in my skull. Radiation is really the only way to ease the pain from bone Mets, but don't worry about that until you need to. You're lucky you have caught it early, as kidney cancer sneaks up on you. Most people don't know they have it until it's already spread. I wish you all the very best for your future, & hope you get no more recurrencesof it. Budgie ... View more

Hi Becky, & welcome. I'm sorry you're suffering this horrible disease, especially at such a young age. But I love your attitude. Keep it strong & always look on the bright side, for it does make a difference. 😊 I hope the treatment works for you. Budgie ... View more

Hi @VM, I am sorry for your loss. Budgie ... View more

Hi Neeks92, I am very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. I lost my mother to cancer 11 years ago. I still think about her practically every day. Life goes on, though, & we must live it as best we can. It sounds very much like you need someone to talk with. There are lots of options for you - call the Cancer Council's line, call Lifeline, talk to your GP or your local priest. Even just talking to a friend can help, but you need to talk about it. Do you have siblings, & is your father still alive? Perhaps you can talk with them? Instead of thinking about things you regret, try instead thinking of all the good times you had with your Mum. There is no point in dwelling on things you can't change. Look for the positives in each day. They are there, despite how gloomy you may feel. I'm sure your Mum wouldn't want you to be depressed, not living your life to the fullest. Please do try - maybe take up a hobby. What did your mother enjoy doing? Did she have a hobby - one that perhaps you could take up? Please don't give up. There is too much doom & gloom in the world already. It will take time, & we all grieve differently, but you will find your way. Just give it time. Budgie ... View more

Hi Roddy60, Probably the TGA, if you're in Australia, or someone at the PBS. I imagine they would be the people to question about it. Budgie ... View more

Hi angieh, I had radiation to my parotid gland area on the left side & like you, my hair fell out. It came back tho. It takes a while, a few months, but your hair should grow back. Don't stress about it as stress can be very counter-productive. 🙂 Budgie ... View more

Hi Tpatrickb, iloveyoudearly7 is right. There will always be a place in your wife's heart for you. No one will replace you. When I die, I want my husband to eventually either remarry or at least have someone to share the rest of his life with. He might live another 40 years or so, & that's a very l long time to be on your own. So, while it's a bit difficult to come to terms with, yes I want my husband to remarry. He deserves to be happy. But just because he might fall in love with someone else, that doesn't mean he loves me any less. Best wishes to you. Budgie ... View more