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Hiya Juleon Yup having cancer or being a carer for someone with cancer can certainly be a roller coaster ride. I am a bit in the same boat with a kind of misdiagnosis and yet also understand how it was missed. Regardless it doesnt change "what is" for me now. :) I hope you enjoy the site and get something out of it. It has been great for me to read (ummm not meaning great that others have cancer or anything) how others go through very similar or the same emotions etc... It is a difficult thing to come to terms with when a diagnosis is missed and i have had plenty of moments of feeling angry. I sometimes wonder whether things would be very different. Difficult things to answer and i am not sure i will even bother going down that track because i need to put my energies into getting myself sorted now. I do hope that your wife is feeling a bit better. When i was undergoing my radiotherapy one of the girls that stayed at the cancer council place was undergoing treatment for pancreatic cancer. Take care Julie ps ... I forgot to mention that good friends are certainly the salt of the earth and it is an experience where you will see the good ... View more

My problem with private facilities asking for a dnr to be signed because they dont have the resources to deal with the person if something goes wrong is (am assuming this dnr follows you around wherever you go to different facilites) what then happens if you end up in a facility that does have the appropriate equipment and they could have revived you and simply didnt because there was a dnr from the private facility in place? ... View more

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Hey Joanna So sorry to read you are having such a hard time with your chemo!! Hopefully that will improve for you. I did that with my hair and then when it was time i shaved it. For me that happened before it got too patchy and thin. It is a hard thing to do but i was glad i did it and decided that i wanted to say when i was gonna be bald and not the cancer. Good luck with everything and hope you get some improvement. Julie xo ... View more

Hey Jo, I am under similar sorts of stress at the moment. Somehow you do make it through and i know you will. To lose your job at a time like this is tough!!! Can you approach the csa and explain your current situation and see if they can alter their decision? I know thats gonna be a slow process but maybe worth a try. Really, the world just needs to stop when someone has cancer and yet it doesnt. We have to deal with so many things on top of our diagnosis. I really do empathise with your situation and hopefully you will get a new job soon. Use the time you have off to catch up on some you time. :) Julie xoxo ... View more

Hi Jill You are going through such a tough time having to deal with so many things at once. Thinking of you and you are doing a great job and giving your kids the best opportunity. when my father had a stroke my mother went through a phase of mourning the loss of the man that he used to be. It created enormous amounts of stress on her because she was having to take on all the things he used to do and also grieving for him as he used to be. A social worker can do all of your centrelink stuff. Give it over to them and thats one less thing you need to deal with. Centrelink can be insensitive at times and a total minefield, depending on who you get to deal with of course. Julie xoxo ... View more

Hiya Gail Fingers crossed for you ... roll on for when you get your results too and yes waiting for them is just not fun!! Julie ... View more

hey Julie I hope that Alex starts to feel a bit better soon. I am just gobsmacked by that doctors attitude. I remember that i had one look in my mouth and tell me "oh well, least its not cancer". Least he had the grace to allow his eyes to nearly fall out of his head when he saw me with no hair and a tachea. My thoughts are with you. Julie xo ... View more

Hey Teach Glad to hear you managed some meditation. It is really a big thing when the chips are down and we can draw on past experience and things we have learnt to help us through. Yes, it does make us think of our own mortality and can bring up all those fears again. I have come to the conclusion that we go through a process. There are no short cuts in this process and its simply something that we have to go through. I try and do it through the path of least resistance. When ya down ya just gotta be there sometimes, but, am always mindful to not stay there. :) I think i am going to go for a swim today, first one for the year. I love the beach and find it incredibly soothing. Perhaps i could liken it to my meditation. take care, teach Julie ... View more