hi      It is a near certainty that I will expire before my children finish primary school. In October 2012 I was diagnosed with advanced colon cancer, aged 34. Two operations and 12 cycles of chemotherapy later, I was declared cancer-free. A blissful three-month interlude of normal life concluded just before last Christmas, when I was told that the cancer was back, had spread aggressively and was now incurable. I’ll be shuffling off this mortal coil long before my allotted threescore years and 10, and probably before my twin sons hit six or seven, which I think is impossibly young and they think is impossibly old.         Expressive Therapy For Depression ... View more

I seen your post has been put up quite some time ago, how are you now?Hope all worked out well. ... View more

Hi John Jack Thank you so much for your reply. You do not realise how much hearing this has relieved me. I understood that fatigue can go on for years as I was warned about this. It's just that I felt normal for almost 3 months so thought it was over and yes it is the hitting the wall fatigue is what I am experiencing. The timing is lousy though although its never a good time to be this fatigued. thank you again cheers Chery ... View more

if your confused imagin how i am feeling i have just spent 2 years convincing my family doctor that i have cancer and there is a history of it but some how he thought i was making it up i do want treatment but i have to be careful as im allergic to penicillin ... View more

Thanks Kate for your quick response to the problem (and thank Felix for contacting me also) - it is much appreciated. Di 🙂 ... View more

Hi Sassykali, It's been a while since I have been on the site and your message came up. I have moved on, slowly, and I can tell you that it does get better. I'm coming up to my three year anniversary. I'm not going to tell you that life is perfect, cause it's not. I still have my moments and my memory I am told will never be quite them same but at least I am developing ways to cope with it. It did take time to accept my new reality. I do really understand what you are going through. I had a 'unique form' of endometrial cancer and menopause is a bitch! Most of my friends did disappear, and at the time it really hurt, but the benefit is that I now have a small circle of friends who I can focus on and I know they love me for who I am and accept me the way I am (post cancer). I cherish them for their on-going support and I thank God that the others have fallen by the wayside because I don't have the time or energy to put into false relationships. I am part of the gynecological group on this site which has regular chat sessions. Unfortunately it is on during a time when I cannot make it but you might like to consider joining. Sometimes I wish I could sit down face to face with other survivors 'like me' just to make sure that I am not alone. Talking helps and talking to people with common understanding is even better. I really hope that you have the strength to keep going. ... View more

I have this variant, and am undergoing treatment for a recurrence right now. Your Mother will be okay! Maybe the cancer will return, maybe not. You don't know when or where so there is nothing gained by worrying. Traditional treatments work very well and as long as your Mum keeps up with checkups and continues to follow her doctor's advice she will be with you a long time. What stage is she? What grade is the tumor? These are more significant factors than the pleomorphic type. As long as your team treats the cancer aggressively and your Mum has a healthy lifestyle there is no reason to think she is doomed. Best of luck to both of you during this emotionally confusing time. ... View more

Hi Mike49 Your cancer story itself is extremeley interesting BECAUSE of the fact that it has all gone well. Congrats and good luck for the future. Di 🙂 ... View more

I agree with all the above comments My ent/surgeon told me he would answer if I e-mailed a question.I never did but used to ring and it took a bit of hassling him to get him to ring back within a day or so.He also told me he'd check any info that I printed from the net to see if it applied to me,as long as it was not too much to go through.This was during the 2 months between diagnosis and surgery.I never did this either.This was because mine was a difficult case and it is a rare cancer and he hadn't seen it before .It was also because it took so long for tests ,consultation and debate to decide how to procede with surgery. My husband and I spent a week in Fiji between the op and rt and he sent my ent a photo and update on my condition in an e-mail which we sent to friends and relatives to save alot of phone calls . ... View more

Hi Vicki, I love your comment 'finger farting' - is that my problem? All this time I have been thinking it is 'chemo brain' not telling my fingers what to do!!! Hope you dont mind, but I am going to 'steal' your saying - I like that better!!! haha These forums/topics are great for 'people like us' - our little sisterhood/brotherhood 'thing' we have going, in so much that we can say exactly how we feel! If we say 'gee, I'm exhausted today', or 'I feel like shit' or ........whatever, we know the response will be from someone WHO IS FEELING EXACTLY THE SAME WAY! My partner STILL doesnt get the fatigue/tiredness side of things. After 2 years, all he says is 'you need to go to bed earlier!!!' I just cant get it through to him that I/we have an exhaustion that cant be cured by sleep,especially when undergoing chemo. Vicki, the family support is necessary, and I do have that, but they 'just dont get it!. Hope everyone is feeling Ok! Di 🙂 ... View more