Hahaha Wombat yes, i can see that, i remember that frustration when nursing my years ago before she passed, (lung camcer and brain tumor) i would be like, omg if thats all you have to complain about. But hay its a huge lesson in compassion if nothing else, oh yeah and patience, and then more patience. And on your progress, wow from where you started yes that is positive, 💖 ... View more

Terry's radiation is a bigger deal than mine I think .Mine didn't involve the neck or eating issues. I went for a check-up with my ent today and he was happy. I asked if anything inside or outside will change (I meant improve) and he said no.I asked him if anything can be done to improve my appearance and he said yes and gave me 2 plastic surgeons' names . He added that considering what was done I looked good . I'll check them out and consider the situation. ... View more

So glad you are looking towards the light at the end of the tunnel, hoping you will reach it sometime soon! Not so for my husband, there will be no cure for him, my logical side has accepted that he will pass away, my emotional side grieves every hour of every day! Wishing you both good luck for the journey ahead. Regards BJS ... View more

Hi Deb, if they didn't get all of the cancer the radiation may take care of that but as you said the scans will tell you more. With mine they couldn't get it all without more radical surgery(losing my eye) but were hoping radiation would do it. So far ,so good.My cancer is adenoid cystic carcinoma.It was in the nasal cavity,tear duct and lacrimal sac.Diagnosis was in early February last year,surgery in mid April and imrt(radiation) for 6 weeks in June and July. Checks since then have not shown any cancer. Do you know if your partner is having imrt? It is used for head and neck cancers and for prostrate cancer. I did not expect you to ask about me nor did it enter my head that you hadn't . You have more pressing things on your mind . All the best to you both. ... View more

Hi Sylvia, thank you for your reply, we are on to day 11 of treatment, and so far so good.. Terry has fared remarkably well so far, with no pain, except the occasional headache which thankfully panadol will ease. He is however having a bit of a rough time with his throat feeling very tight and that closing in feeling.. They keep telling us to make the most of it and that it will get worse, but for now we are thanking our lucky stars that he is still so well.. Eating is going well as is his weight only fluctuating by a kilo or so either way, depending on what he has eaten for the day, I have been in my element cooking up a protien based storm for him, last night was an omelette with chicken, ham and cheese, that went down well apparently, Terry has said that his tastebuds have changed though and every thing has to have sauce or lots of salt and pepper on it for him to enjoy it.. so if thats what it takes thats what we do.. Tonight he felt like mince so i have made a nice kind of pie filling mix with gravy and he is having that with mash potato with lots of milk and butter.. just the way he loves it.. and its guilt free for now 🙂 He has tried the drinks the hospitals have given him with out much luck, he didn't like the taste or the texture but im sure when he needs them (when he has no taste buds) im sure they will be ok We have been very impressed with all help and support the hospital have given us. They truly are a special group of people.. thanks for the support as well Sylvia, its very much appreciated by both terry and myself. take care and stay well.. Debstar ... View more

Hi Hopeful, I was very saddened by reading your post. I have no words that could possibly make this pain or sorrow better. Such a horrible thing to happen and exactly - What the F@#K do u do now?? I can only imagine the pain you are enduring and have endured - to watch the person u love fade away. I guess you grieve and let that be whatever it maybe: sadness, anger, rage, happiness, relief, guilt, fear and acceptance. I hope and pray you find some peace soon and may your son be your light at this dreadful time. Ruby “Just when you think it can't get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can't get any better, it can.” ... View more