Hi Emma, I don't share your experiences exactly (my husband has cancer), but I definitely agree with you about waiting for tests etc. It's just horrible. You're definitely not going crazy- it really is that bad. Everyone on this forum has gone through the waiting process at some stage, and we can all understand where you're coming from. All I can suggest is that old cliche of taking one day at a time (it's become a cliche for a good reason), and distracting yourself from worry if possible. Good luck with everything, and know that we're all here for you. love and hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi Struggling, I've been in a similar situation as you, but not from cancer (I'm on this forum because my husband was diagnosed with lymphoma 3 years ago, when he was 39 and 1 was 35.) I was diagnosed as post menopausal when I was 17. It took me a long time to process the implications of that (especially as I had to grow up a bit first!), but now I can honestly say that I wouldn't have it any other way. Please feel free to pm me(or reply here of course) if you have any questions or comments about fertility issues/infertility/etc. Lots of love and supportive hugs, Emily ... View more

I imagine your husband is probably sick of doctors, but discussing the situation with his GP may be helpful. The GP should be able to work out whether you're husband's low mood is due to the medication or a natural reaction to his situation (obviously managing it is going to depend on the cause). The GP can also refer him to a medicare rebatable counsellor if that seems appropriate, too. Good luck with everything- keep in touch! Sending love and hugs, Emily ... View more

I'm so sorry. I know there are no words for a time like this. I'm a Christian too, and I'll be praying for you all. Please message me if you would like to share any prayer points. lots of love and hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi CC, my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 non-Hodgkin's lymphoma in 2011. He was 39, I was 35 (I probably should have told you that earlier, to give you a context for my post!) He had 6 months of chemotherapy and thankfully went into remission half way through. He's been doing brilliantly since then, and is currently on 6 monthly check ups. Good luck with the PET. I've got everything crossed for you! love Emily ... View more

Hi CC, this is such an overwhelming time. Most people on this forum would agree that waiting for test results absolutely SUCKS!!!! I'm really glad you found this forum so early in the piece- it's a great place to vent/share ideas/ask questions and just generally be heard by people who understand what you're talking about. Unfortunately you'll probably find that there aren't a heap of resources directed specifically towards your (our- I'm 38, my husband is 42 and he was diagnosed 3 years ago) demographic. The Warwick Cancer Foundation is a group founded to support people dealing with cancer aged 25-40ish. www.twcf.org.au. They have a peer support program, provide practical help and have social functions for members and supporters. I'm sending warm hugs and good thoughts your way. love Emily ... View more

Vent away Andrea, this is just the place for it. It's hard being the carer in a two person household, because there's no one in the house to support you. Just know that this community is here to cheer you on whenever you need it. (That's one of the benefits of an internet forum- it's available 24 hr a day.) Sending you big gentle hugs of support, Emily ... View more

I just reseached carer's support groups and came across this: http://www.carersvictoria.org.au/ They seem not to have a particular focus on people caring for people with any particular illness. They have a youth section as well, and seem to have heaps of resources, as well as social activities. Might be worth checking out! ... View more

Hi Kirri, I was in a similar, but not the same, situation as you when my husband was going through chemotherapy. He never got particularly unwell, but still needed practical support and help at times. I can remember feeling very alone, too, as he was the person I was most used to turning to for support. Your comment about being the strong one all your life really struck me- it sounds like you do need to find a 'safe' place to fall apart occasionally (as everyone does.) This is a great place for that. Unfortunately it is an online, not face to face community, but you can be sure that most people on here would have a good understanding of what you're facing and feeling. I had the same experience as you with some of my friends, too. Some of them just dropped away, and others I had to leave behind because they were causing more trauma than friendship tolerates. This is unfortunately quite common too, and actually the 2 posts on this forum with the longest response threads both dealt with this topic. You're definitely not alone. love and hugs, Emily ... View more