Molly It sounds like you are having a pretty tough time. I feel for your situation as a young person. Your experience is just as valid as your mum's in terms of emotional distress. Maybe you could talk to your mum as Lime Green suggests. Also you could try contacting kidshelponline which offers online counselling and phone too for ppl 5-25 yrs old. I hope you get time out with friends. Carers need time out to de-stress and have some fun. Feel free to keep talking on this site. As a carer in the past and having cancer last yr I know both sides have their own burdens. Best wishes GHT ... View more

Dear Hally Sorry to hear you have had so much to deal with. If you feel isolated maybe it is worth talking to a counsellor with experience in helping people with cancer. Why not ring the cancer council and get a referral in your area. I have had cancer last year and have a check up on 7/3 so know what it is like to have that anxious what if feeling. Also I lost my oldest friend who couldn't support me so sometimes it can be important to find your own dedicated person outside famly and friends who you wont need to take care of re their response or feelings. All the best and keep hold of those horns! GHT ... View more

Dear Rosie I agree with Free that doing uni (even 1 subject)might be positive for you and bring joy to your mum to see you doing something valuable for yourself. It may also give you another focus and you can let your family take more of the responsibility for day to day care of your mum. It doesn't mean you love her any less. You just sound a bit burnt out which is perfectly normal. As a cancer patient now in remission after last year living in limbo and on hold, I know how hard it can be to act like your life can go on. All those emotions can really get in the way of living like there is a tomorrow. Grief is hard to accept to I know as I lost my best friend as she couldn't cope. Anger and sadness can churn with all the other emotions.But you will find your way. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and as Free says Just Breathe ... View more

Susie Great news about your op going well. I hope your recovery continues in a positive way. Best wishes GHT ... View more

Karina Your post made me cry. People are always saying to me " so they think they got all the cancer so you are ok now" or something similar. Well yes the cancer has been successfully treated it seems but I have a lot of scars physically from treatment and emotionally ( and financial!). People just don't want to contemplate suffering if they can avoid it.its not that loved ones are mean. They just simply haven't had to face it. I haven't had the type of cancer that warranted ongoing treatment for years (unless it recurs of course) but I have paid my dues and then some and know what I didn't know before. CANCER IS A BIG DEAL! ... View more

Dear Maggie I am sorry you have had to go thru this and be so young. I am in my 50's but had cancer this year for first time and know what you mean. Friends and family often think that once the cancer is dealt with that you are back to normal. But cancer can have ripple effects emotionally and socially. I think they just don't have your insight and maybe just focused on the end of illness and their relief.. It can feel lonely and confusing. Please feel free to keep talking on this site and maybe join a group for young people with cancer experiences eg Canteen or other support. Maybe ring the cancer council for info. My heart goes out to you as does my understanding that cancer recovery isn't simple and clear cut. Grace ... View more

Hi Rhiannon I had uterine cancer this year so know it can be a big shock. There is a gyny cancer support GP as part of this website support service. There are women with cervical cancer experience and they are very supportive bunch. Go to groups on top right of screen and scroll down to gyny group and you can request to join. I wish you all the best with your treatment. Grace ... View more

Hi MGS I had 3 mths with Mirena and 400mgs Provera a day as I had risks re anasthetic acc to to GO. But while I was told it had 60-70% chance of success it didn't work so in the end I had to have laproscopic radical hyster. There were no complications and no further treatment needed but cancer did grow but still was only grade 1 luckily. I hope you are luckier re hormone route and remember my experience is just that, mine. I think the 3 mth wait to see if it worked plus headaches, nausea and weight gain from provera were pretty wearing so hope you have few side effects. Best wishes GHT ... View more

Hi Janet I too put on weight during treatment with hormone progesterone and also struggled with feeing depressed esp as lost best friend thru cancer. I have just started walking and lawn bowls and and am 54 yo. I think feeling stuck can be a physical as well as emotional thing as I spent a lot of this year lying on my bed. Maybe it would be helpful to just pick 1 or 2 things you can do requiring movement of some kind. Once I force myself to go for a walk the day feels just a little more manageable and gives me sense I am doing at least one thing I can feel good about myself for doing. It sounds like you have certainly had a tough time with cancer and I hope counselling is helpful so you can vent and explore new ways of being you. Best wishes GHT ... View more

I'm so sorry Pepper that things are dragging out so long with all the uncertainty. As for not hearing from the Dr, they really need to consider patients level of anxiety and ring even if it is to explain the delay. Hoping no news ends with good news. Best wishes GHT ... View more