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Goodbye baby

peanutz
September 2012
It's the Grand Final day and Dennis said yesterday that he would watch the game. I guess he's now watching it from the best seat. It's hard to let him go. I'm glad I was there holding him, telling him how much I love him and it's OK to have a rest and not fighting anymore.
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storm
Contributor
September 2012
Nat If you want to talk 0265558428 Geoff
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Jules2
Super Contributor
September 2012
Peanutz My sympathy to you and your family on your loss. You have been so amazing throughout your husband's illness and I am sure that made such a difference to him. hugss Julie
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SILLY
Super Contributor
September 2012
I don't know what to say . I know you were expecting this but that doesn't take away the sadness .
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rarsie
Contributor
September 2012
Hi peanutz, Only a week between Denis and Kep. keep going, dont try to be strong let it come and then let it go, all the best to you
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Rubes1984
Contributor
September 2012
Peanutz, My thoughts are with u and ur family at this very sad time. How wonderful that u were together in ur husbands last moments. I am sure they were cheeriahed momenta for u both. Although u knew this was coming, I cannot believe how fast it was..... Take care and may u find some peace in knowing ur husband is now at rest. Hugs Rubes
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little_stitcher
Super Contributor
September 2012
I'm so sad for your loss. Sending you hugs- be gentle with yourself. We'd love to keep hearing from you here when you want. xx
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little_stitcher
Super Contributor
September 2012
I'm so sad for your loss. Sending you hugs- be kind to yourself. We'd love to keep hearing from you here when you want to post. xx
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peanutz
Frequent Contributor
October 2012
Thanks everyone. I thought I would feel better when Dennis doesn't suffer any longer. I have ended up feeling worse than when he was around. I used to cry because I felt so lonely before I met him and the past 11 years and a half I had not done that again until now.
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storm
Contributor
October 2012
Hugs and love Nat.... my softest hugs and love. There will be different stages in grief, the memories of Dennis, all sometimes returning from time to time, all different aspects. His going csn now allow you to hit the bottom, experience the numbness, the endless waves of his not being there and whatever else is there within your soul. The feelings will slowly change your grief be softer. my love to you Nat Geoff
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storm
Contributor
October 2012
This is the way of grief Nat There are some dark pits to wollow in. i am jumping in with you now Lorraine died at 5.43 this afternoon. I am relieved that her death has finally come, its been hallowing this wait where she has had no food and ater for 5-6 days the drugs her semi coma. I have her body till the morning. Like you tomorrow is an other day and it will change. Hugs to all Geoff
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peanutz
Frequent Contributor
October 2012
I'm so sorry for your loss, Geoff. Lorraine is so lucky to have you by her side. You're truly an amazing man provided such a great care for her. I appreciate your suppor, it did help me to understand that it's OK to hit the bottom. People tried to keep me company after Dennis had passed away and I ended up telling them to leave me alone. I had cried for 24 hrs then had a surprisingly good 9 hrs sleep and now I feel much better and ready to organise a farewell for my best friend ever. I will try to stand up tall on my own but knowing that I have great frieends here who have supported me throughout the journey. I hope you can do the same. I believe our partners would be upset to see us being so sad and unhappy by their depart as they are still here with us in our hearts. I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
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SILLY
Super Contributor
October 2012
It is understandable and normal that you are crying . As well as losing your husband you will have a lot of pent-up emotion from living through the illness.
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SILLY
Super Contributor
October 2012
My thoughts are also with you ,Geoff .
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Jules2
Super Contributor
October 2012
Hi Geoff My condolences to you on your loss and sending you hugsss. Julie
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1232michelle
Occasional Contributor
October 2012
I have been offline alot lately and to get on here tonight and see your story, i feel so unbelievably sad. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx
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tatsoi
Contributor
October 2012
so very sorry to hear your news. be kind and gentle to yourself many thanks for sharing your journey... sending love and healing xx
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Rain_76
Occasional Contributor
October 2012
Hi Peanutz, so sorry for your loss, it is so hard to go on, I am still struggling without Gary, Lorraine
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