Hi Reverend, I am a male of 52 years and I've also struggled with hormonal imbalance my whole adult life which has been very difficult to manage. I got a dire (in type though thankfully not stage) nasopharyngeal cancer (sinus cancer) diagnosis just after I turned 50 years old. I've since struggled with that and continued hormonal issues exacerbated by the stress of cancer treatment. My hormonal imbalance is caused by overactive adrenal glands (inherited maternal side) producing too much cortisol (stress hormone) and too much adrenaline. This has also lead to nasty digestive related issues like IBS-D.    High stress over a long period of time is massively damaging systemically and I've thrown the book at trying to get the resultant inflammation down. Unfortunately, success has been mooted and I believe the inflammation was a large contributor to my cancer development (in combination with inhaling carcinogens). I have most recently found an wonderful herbal treatment called 'Ashwaghanda'. It is very tested and very powerful at inhibiting the hormone over response of the adrenals. I am only on a mild anti-depressant in combination with it and I've recently found myself in a very calm place. I am able to get out and about without panic or anxiety now and are generally much happier.   It is critical to try and calm those hormone releases in whichever way you may. Meditation, a pet, walking in nature, reading, whatever! You'll know when your inflammation markers reduce as the body pains will significantly reduce. A diet high in anti-oxidants is really helpful as well. I follow the Mediterranean diet and it's really working for me.  Keep battling and all of the best.   Timo ... View more

KD   Thanks for your reply to my questions.  You have my respect for have been a nurse. I have a few nurses in my family but I have meet many in the last few months. One nurse went through cancer and lost her husband during her treatment. I meet her while waiting to get my port put in. She was amazing. I asked how she got through through the lost of her husband. She mentioned that she loved to go to the gym  She goes to the same gym that i work for. Small world.  I have painted many pickle ball courts over the last few years 😀 My wife and I have only been together for a little over 20 years. I guess because we raised 4 kids and have grandchildren that it feels like we been together for ever. I don't deserve her. When she gets moody I just blame it on her being a female. I'm sure it's not my fault 🤪 ... View more

Reveren  Sorry to hear about your struggles.  Im sure its safe to say you believe in God. I'm a follower of Chirs. I know He is in control of my situation. If its His well I will be healed.  The last few days I been getting painful headaches.  I never get headaches 😩.  I think last night I was moaning loud enough that my wife could hear me . Its a long story but I know God's plan for my life. 12 years ago I went to pre marriage counseling with my wife and her pastor.  I told my wife after our wedding I would never attend church. Funny how God changed my heart. I'm now head of children ministry and security at our church.  I have been a father for over 35 years. I screwed up my first marriage. But think God for getting me the wife I have and a purpose.  This is my walk so please don't feel like I'm judging you.  My purpose in life is to sever God. He has given me a heart that loves helping people.  My kids and grandchildren has served alongside me. They have seen me praise God because we have been very blessed with things we don't deserve.  We have lost 5 young adults in our family. They were the same age as our oldest son.  As the head of my family my job was to help my family try to understand why God would let bad things happen.  Easier said than done when it happens to other people.  How that I have lymphoma cancer it's time for me to walk my talk. I tell my family I'm very thankful that I'm the one with cancer. Not my wife or children.  My wife and family is watching me closely. How I react is going to be a life experience.  I don't never complain about any of this cancer stuff and inconvenience. Yes at times I feel bad. I lost my hair on my head. I no longer have facial hair. Sometimes I feel like throwing up. My armpit where they removed a few lumps hurts. But these are reminder that I'm still alive. If I die from cancer or a car accident I want my family to remember me as a man who trusted God and understood that I used cancer to praise God for allowing me to live 55 years and allowing me to be a grandfather. You still have time to change things with your wife. If you really feel that she is tried of your complaining then stop . She may be feeling helpless. Again I'm not judging. But why would you want to put her through more than she has to. As a husband I feel it's our job to protect your wife from anything. If you see her as a gift from God like I do my wife you will put her before yourself. I kills me knowing my wife is worried that I may not be here because of cancer. I  have no control of how she handles this  But I have control of how I react .If I die tomorrow I want the last thing my wife to  hears or see me do was something positive.  Trust God no matter what the outcome is. Be thankful that you have cancer.   How would you feel if it was your wife that had it. I know this is selfish but I pray to God that I die atlases a day before my wife. She is amazing and I couldn't handle watching her go through cancer and treatment.  Thank God I have cancer 🌹 ... View more

Bear   Sorry to hear that your treatment isn't helping.  Don't give up. There are other meds that they could use.  My treatment involves a mild chemo. My doctor has informed me that there is a chance that my cancer may not respond well to the meds she's using and if it doesn't she will use some that are more aggressive.  I have a blood cancer. She's trying to keep me healthy while killing the cancer. So far I have been able to live a moral life.  Have you spoke to your doctor to see what will happen next.  I have a cousin who has gone through 3 treatments for breast cancer in 4 years.  She's very positive and happy still . I think the hardest part of having cancer is staying positive. Heck I broke down and almost cried in front of my boss because the test and images weren't very favorable for me. They found problems with my heart and lungs. That's one of the reasons I'm getting the chemo that I'm. The wrong treatment could kill me  Please keep us updated on what they plan on doing next..👍   ... View more

Hey my friend!!! Don't be so hard on yourself!!!! Your questions, feelings and concerns are justified.  I have to agree with your wife about it being in God's hands. I feel the same way about me having cancer. But I'm going to do everything in my control to postpone my trip to heaven:) I don't have any experience with what you and your family are going through. But as a husband I  can understand why you are going through up and downs with your emotions.  Do you mind me asking what kind of support do you have dealing with all this.  Are you working,taking care of the kids and wife alone? I'm a firm believer in researching. But I also know that some people prove that the doctors aren't always right.    Stay strong my friend. Don't beat yourself up if you feel negative sometimes. I have cried a few times myself because I just couldn't pretend everything was going great for me.    ... View more

Hi Stuart, so sorry that your wife’s cancer has come back. I can imagine how devastating this is for you. All I can suggest is just to be real about your feelings with your wife. You can always talk to someone at the Cancer Council. They are so helpful for those with cancer and their carers. I was the one with cancer and my husband was my rock through the journey. You’ll be that rock again but you’re allowed to feel upset. Maybe just comfort each other and tell her how you are feeling. Just my thoughts on your situation. Take care🙏💜 ... View more

John    Glad to hear that things are improving for you. Any kind of shrinkage is good 👍  People can be strange at times. Especially family.  I guess you could say I have a decent amount of family and friends. But honestly I only care about 12 people's opinions about me. I have a wife, 4 kids and 4 grandchildren. Lol.. So that means my Aunt Sandy and 2 niece are the only ones that I would spend any energy on.... I hope you have a great Christmas  ... View more

Cindy    Sorry to hear about your mom passing.  My father died on my 23rd birthday.  My mother came home and died in my bedroom from kidney failure.  When I was 12 my mom left my dad and moved out of state without telling me.  She left my 10 year old brother and I.  My dad became a suicidal alcoholic.  My mother remarried . Had a new family. So did my dad. But either one of my parents had room for my brother and I. We were pretty much left to take care of ourselves. We drifted from one family member to another.  I quit school when I was 17 to work and raise my brother.  I hated my parents. I became a dad at 19. To make this story shorter.  Because I was a father I didn't have time to worry about my parents  and the past . Seriously think about this.  Everytime we waste worrying about things we can't change takes away the joy we have.  When both of my parents needed help I was there to take care of them. I did it more because they once were great parents.  I choose to remember the great things they did as parents. I  learned what not to do from there mistakes.  I'm now a 55 year old married grandfather.  I have a rare blood cancer that I getting treatment for.  You may find this hard to believe but my family and I don't worry about it.  Our adult kids have families and children to worry about and take care of.  I have always taken the job as a family leader and role model seriously . My family is handling my health problems well because I'm also. They know that I have a great chance of beating this. But they also know that in the future that it may come back.  I wish everyone would talk to our oldest son about my cancer. He would tell everyone that he doesn't care or is worried about it.  He has learned that he can't control everything that happens in life. He's to busy enjoying his awesome wife and daughter's.  He is a much better man and dad than I'm.  Ask him my he is 🙂 I hope you find away to move pass what is troubling you.  Sounds like you have great reasons to enjoy life because you are a mom. God welling one day you'll be a grandma.  There is ony one thing more enjoyable than the sounds of happy laughing children.  And that is the day you become a grandparent... ... View more

Skip   Sorry to hear about your health and your husband.  As a son of a alcoholic it breaks my heart to hear about your husband. My father died on my birthday when he was only 47 years ago.  He never got to enjoy being a grandfather.  I'm 55 now and still don't understand his life chooses. But I did learn from them. I finally got to the point in my life where I wasn't afraid to become like him. But I have decided not to drink anymore. It never was a problem for me. I haven't had hard alcoholic in 12 years or any alcoholic since my mom passed 6 years ago. I would love to talk to your husband about how he is going to be remembered by his kids. My father was prefect until he became a drunk.  I struggle with remembering the good side of him. He became a abuses alcoholic. That how I remember him. I want my kids and grandchildren to remember me as someone who was always honest, firm and loving. My grandfather once told me all we ever take to our grave is our name.  But please don't think I'm judging your husband.  You sound like a awesome woman.  You definitely have a lot going on right now.  Like Linda I would also like to know how old are your kids?  I can't imagine going through all you are and having to worry about young children.  Ill be praying for you.  Please keep us updated as best you can. 🌹 ... View more

Good morning (its morning in USA) Just checking up on you to see how things are going with you.  47 is still pretty young.  I hope all is well and you are getting some answers to what is going on  ... View more