Linda    I hope all is well with you my friend.. I couldn't agree more about our time is in God's hands!!! Even before having cancer I have always appreciated every day I wake up.  I'm a firm believer that no matter how this turns out that my family will remember that the time we are going through will make us stronger and closer to God.  I call that a win.. Wegotthis  ... View more

So sorry to hear about your mom... I personally would respect her wishes... Our oldest son and his family are flying home in January.  I know they can't afford to and it brakes my heart. I know he's worried that I may not be around this time next year.  My doctor just reminded me yesterday that I could still die from my cancer and that I need to take it more seriously than I am.  I don't want my kids or grandchildren changing their life because of me.  I know they love me.  That's why I wake up everyday happy.  I'm sure your mom feels the same way.  If you decide not to go never regret it.  I can feel how much you love her by your post.  I'm sure she knows it as well.  Make her last days about her and not you.. If I were you I would go afterwards and spend the time helping your dad. I could be lost without my wife . I'm so thankful that it's me with cancer and not her. Be strong for your daughter as well. This will be a life learning experience. If she see you handing it well she will be better prepared for ruff times in her life.  I would prefer not to have cancer but I do. I'm using it to teach my family to stay positive and strong... Stay strong!!! ... View more

Hi Balaji, sorry I can’t give you any advice as my cancer was different to yours. I hope your medical team can tell you how long before you improve. So sorry your recovery is taking a long time. Love and prayers to you. 💕 Linda G  ... View more

Very clever. However Spanish probably isn't understood by the sensor live nor artificial.  So you could say whatever you like and not be sensored. Moderated might be a better term. Anyway, you are loud and clear and you should be able to say whatever you like. I attempted to have some comments deleted, that could'nt be done.  Buenos dias. ... View more

Hi S, Thank you for your reply to my query, and yes imposing on my brother's life was something I was concerned about. I've tried putting myself in his shoes, and I think I would like family being available for support and family time, especially if time may be limited...so I agree with you, being available to visit and  spend time would be a good thing for both of us. Thank you for confirming/suggesting how I should manage this situation. ... View more

Marking one's chair. Yes, I can certainly relate to that one. I noticed many years ago, that the same thing happens on buses and trains, especially on train carriages. Everyone takes the exact same train every day, and sits in the exact same carriage, on the exact same chair, me included.   It got to the stage where we even started to know each other, despite never having been formally introduced. Head nods became common, and even a few 'how ya doin' buddy' comments started to become common, as we all sat down.   On occasions, I saw someone else sitting in my chair, and was close to saying 'hey, that's my chair, buddy,' but I didn't, of course. But let' face it, how dare someone else take the seat I'd been sitting in for years! 'It's my chair! Mine! Move, Goddamitt!'   Seriously, the nerve of some people.   Colin ... View more

Hi WeGotThis. good that you have some answers now. What you have and what treatments you'll be having. However, I still find this quite difficult to deal with. For me, I always seem to be waiting for another test, another test result, how the meds are working and so on.  Its almost a full time job managing the meds, tests and various doctors appointments. Whatever you decide regarding work, I hope it works out. There may be some risk associated with 'C19' in your workplace and your immune system. I believe work definitely has a place in treatment and meds recovery in that it keeps the mental focus on other things, along with good diet, active lifestyle and sleep. Stirling ... View more

Thanks, beekubee, I'll keep you all posted.   JD ... View more

Sass ....Sorry to hear about your health problems.  The waiting sucks. I found myself wishing weekend's would hurry up and be done.  I'm still waiting to find out exactly what I have and what treatments I need.  I have non Hopkins but there are a bunch of sub types . They  are doing a  FISH test. So I'm still waiting.  My advice is if you can handle it do a lot of research.  But not think that you have cancer.  Think what if I have cancer.  I did so much research that when the doctor told me what I have i had no questions for her. She was surprised on well informed I was.  I have cancer.  Oh well.. There is nothing I can do about it.  But we sure have a say on how we react to the news. I refuse to let it steal a moment of joy. I don't feel like I have cancer.  I don't act like I have it. I done even talk about it unless I have to miss work.  If you are having a hard time with this find something to distance you.  Yesterday I played games with is something I never do. Just a FYI.  My cousin had 12 miscarriages. She's 45 and her husband is now 50. They are a few months away from having a daughter .  NEVER get up  HOPE. Even if I was dieing I would enjoy every day.  Stay strong and keep us updated please.  Your journey just may help someone  ... View more

Hopefully your tongue improves JD with the meds. That’s disappointing you have so many more chemo rounds😥. You are fighting so hard!! Praying for you 🙏. 💕 Linda G  ... View more