Hey Darren.  Looks like you are the same age as me.  I have RCC too.  Stage IV.  I’m 18 months in.  Trust me, it gets easier to accept.  There’s a forum called Smart Patients, with a sub forum called Kidney Cancer.  I get a lot of comfort from being on there.  Some people have been battling stage IV RCC  for 15+ years with the various different treatments which re available now.   It’s more encouraging than the 5 year prognosis you will see when you hit google.   Never search cancer on google or Facebook.  That will definitely get you depressed. Stay strong my friend.  You will have years ahead of you put the path will be challenging. cheers Paul ... View more

Hi Debmc, that’s just so very hard for you having your dear dad go so quickly. I remember when my dad died suddenly 2 years ago he was in hospital for a day and they did all tests on his heart and couldn’t find anything. He was sent home and died during the night. It was dreadful and I cried for a year. My beautiful mum died last year and we had to make those horrible choices to keep her out of pain. So I understand what you’re going through. You don’t have to rush through the grieving process. Life goes on but it’s never the same without parents who are so special. Xx Linda G  ... View more

I hope the walking is going well and you're well and truly back on your feet. By now your results should be back so I hope they were all ok. What are the next steps? More scans, or the dreaded "wait and see"? Any longer term side effects from the surgery? I hope everything is OK mate.   -s ... View more

Hey Rach,   I’m so sorry to hear about your father. I’m 26, and like you, just lost my father in August after a two year battle with cancer. That was my also my biggest fear, him not meeting my children, but just know that he lives on in you. When you do have kids one day, I know that he’ll be so proud of you despite not physically being with you. In fact, I know even now how proud he was of you. It’s a fatherly love that just can’t be faked. Cherish all your memories with him, and just know that he’ll always be there to guide you. We’ll get through this together, one way or another. I’m not a religious guy, but I always tell my heartbroken mum that one day, we’ll be together again as a family. A love and bond like that, it’s just way too strong. Hoping you can share some happy moments with your dad, even if you think he’s not here, he is 🙂 ... View more

Hi Lisa, hope you’ve had some success with your oncologist today and some help for your symptoms. I know when I first started the chemo the effects were extremely bad so the dosage was adjusted, meds given to help with side effects , and it really made it much easier to bear. 💕 Linda G ... View more

Thanks Linda for answering my questions.  Glad to hear that your treatments worked!! I believe that you and I will sharing a similar story.  I'm still waiting for that call!!! Oh the fun of waiting!!! Have a awesome day 😎  ... View more

One step at a time! Yes the waiting for results is so hard. Once you get them you’ll know what you’re dealing with. Love and prayers to you and your family. 🙏💕. Linda  ... View more

Sorry to hear about your side effects during your treatments.  I can see why you feel the way you do about losing your hair.  I'm still waiting to see what I have.  By end of next week I should know . If its cancer I'm hoping it is Hopkins. From my research it's very treatment able. I feel in my heart it's just going to be stage 1. My doctor's have been amazing. My first doctor visit was 3 weeks ago. My surgery is this Wednesday.  I do feel quilty that I'm getting great treatment and I'm going to be fine when so many young people are very bad off.  I'm a 55 year old grandfather of 4. With 4 great adult children and a great wife.  I wish I could trade places with someone who hasn't had the chance to be a grandparent.  Stay strong. Enjoy every day with your kids.  They grow up so quick.  ... View more

Hello Layla, fellow cancer sufferer here. My name is Colin and I'm 59. Firstly, chemo sucks, I know. But my advice is to listen to your oncologist and focus on curing the cancer, whatever it takes. And on a positive note, there are some good things. In my case, for example, I have lost so much weight that I can now eat whatever I like and not worry about putting on too much weight. Seriously, yesterday I ate an entire half of a big apple crumble pie with cream and cinnamon. As for hair loss, a friend of mine used to work for a hair replacement salon. Many of her customers were guys simply concerned with their appearance, but many were girls, also, some with alopecia or cancer. The salon provided wigs, basically, and to be absolutely honest, many of them from what I saw looked great. Natural, thick, flowing. I say just go for it. Buy one and wear it. Buy two and switch weekly from being  blonde to a brunette. And trust me, if anyone were to comment negatively (which they won't), simply tell them hat you have cancer. They will immediately feel bad and be apologetic, but again, trust me when I say that no one will say a word. Why would they? People are more focused on themselves than others around them. Personally I', bald and have been for years since I shaved off what was left of my hair. But now I'm losing my trademark goatee beard through chemo. It's a shame there's not a market for artificial beards! Don't be a mess, Layla. Be positive and kick this thing's ass. In the meantime, explore wig options. There is more support out there than you can imagine. Colin ... View more

Oh Layla, I’m so sorry. That would be such a shock for you. Make sure you have lots of support around you if you can. I can’t imagine how you feel but will be praying for you and sending you lots of love. We are all here for you. Xx Linda G  ... View more