Good morning (its morning in USA) Just checking up on you to see how things are going with you.  47 is still pretty young.  I hope all is well and you are getting some answers to what is going on  ... View more

Linda    I hope all is well with you my friend.. I couldn't agree more about our time is in God's hands!!! Even before having cancer I have always appreciated every day I wake up.  I'm a firm believer that no matter how this turns out that my family will remember that the time we are going through will make us stronger and closer to God.  I call that a win.. Wegotthis  ... View more

JD   Thanks for post...Really sorry to hear about you having to go through this.  Like you I also have a port. Its a weird feeling.  Sometimes I forget it's there but there are times where it bugs me. This morning I can definitely feel it  Its really annoying. I want to rip it out  We have 2 dogs.  One is over 80 pounds and thinks he's a lap dog. The other one is 65 pounds and also thinks she's a lap dog. They always seem to find a way to crush my port . There is also a lump on my neck where I can feel the tube in my vain.. Crazy....I'm starting to wonder if I  will ever feel the same after treatment. The area under my armpit where they removed the cancer still feels like I have a few lumps but I don't. I know it's just in my mind... Again thanks for sharing your experience.  I guess I'll pay more attention to my .port  Hope you are having a great day  ... View more

Your post is hard to read because you both are around the same age of my oldest son and his wife .. Your partner is the reason I don't get upset about having cancer myself.  I'm 55 with grandchildren.  It really hurts me to see people who want to help and be supportive get treated so badly.  You are awesome for going through this with him. At your age you could easily walk away from this and start over.  Please don't take this wrong. Right now he is being very selfish. I believe it's because he feels he's lost control over his life.  Cancer is something that effects your way of thinking and how you look at things. The great thing is we can control that part of having cancer.  I personally have decided that I don't want my wife and family to have any pain that I can control.. He needs to really think about how he wants to be remembered if he does lose the battle.  I don't want to throw away 55 years of being kind and loving just because I may or may not die . Have him please read this if he wants to . Let  him know I'm here for him if he would like to take out his anger on me. Ill give him my phone number so he can cuss and yell at me.  You are want every dad wishes for when a son brings home a young lady... You will be in my prayers. I sure hope he realizes what he has before it's too late.  I   ... View more

KatWat   Great reply. It makes me even more thankful that I'm the one with cancer and not my wife.  I don't tell her enough about how much I appreciate all she has done for me even before we found out about me. I 100% agree with your wife that cancer is harder on the people who loves the one with it. As a husband I have always made sure to protect my wife and family for harm and pain. Especially my wife. I can't handle seeing her cry.  The only thing I ask her to do is not to cry in front of me because of what is happening. So she's crying behind closed doors and it kills me that I can't stop her pain and worries. For some stupid reason I can't get over not having my family seeing me cry.  The best I can do for them is to stay positive and happy. I'm hoping this will turn into a positive life experience for my family by watching me handling this. I believe me having cancer is going to be a blessing for us no matter how it goes.  I'm very fortunate that our 4 adults children are amazing. I have a great chance at beating this.  But if not our oldest son is more than capable of being the family leader. My wife well be taken care of.  My heart hurts for you. The thought of not having my wife around is more painful than having to deal with everything that comes with cancer... I'm glad to see that you are there for her. I have read stories about people leaving others because of health issues. I just don't understand how someone can do it... God bless you for being a true husband to your wife.  I have prayed many times that my wife will out live me even if it's one day. There's no way I can do everything she does and work a full time job.  Wife's are definitely a gift from God and we husband should treat them like it...     ... View more

Robin    Sorry to hear about your infection and you being so tired.  I'm going to assume you are getting treatment or done with them.  It would helpful knowing that cancer you have/had.  I have a blood cancer that has already lowered my immune system and the treatment is going to lower it even more.  They have me taking meds at home and I get a shot to help boost my white blood cells.  Your mom is right. Your immune system is weak. You should avoid being around people that are sick and limited going out unless it needed.  I work around a lot of people so sometimes you have to interact with people even though it's not the best thing for you.  Research eating healthy having cancer.  Try to up your protein intake to help you have more energy. I  know for me I was useless for a few days after my first treatment. I been told it gets worse after each one. My doctor has advised me to be ready to be out of work for 4 months if not longer I have put in for a transfer to a smaller location and filed all the necessary paperwork just incase I can't work.  I hope you are doing well and stay strong  ... View more

Linda    I hope all is well with you and your family.  My treatment is very close to CHOP. My understanding is the difference is in the medication they are using.  CHOP has been known to cause long term side effects on the heart. During testing they found a problem with my heart so they are using something that is a little bit likely to harm mine.  I think finding out about my heart was harder than finding cancer. I never would have thought it wasn't prefect.  I live a pretty healthy lifestyle.  From what I have been told I'm more likely to have major issues with my heart if after treatment this cancer comes back.  Next month after my second treatment they are going to do another heart image.  Crazy how quick life can change... Stay safe my friend 🙏  ... View more

Amy sorry to hear that you are going through this again.  11 months!!! That definitely sucks... I just had my first treatment last week... I praying it goes well because if my cancer comes back it doesn't usually react well . I completely understand the anxiety of all this. I have been in the hospital because of the pain it causes me many years ago.  Lucky for my wife and I our kids are grown up. I'm very thankful that that.  Can I ask how old is your kid and do you have close family that are helping you  Stay strong and positive!!! ... View more

so sorry to hear about your health .... I can't imagine how hard all this is for you.  Being alone and away from family and friends sucks. But because of your lungs they can't talk many chances that you get a illness from someone.  I have a blood cancer. Many years ago they put people with my kind of cancer in isolation. They want me to stop working and avoid people.. Waiting is probably the worst part of this.  It seems to never end. Waiting for testing and results will become a way of life for you.  Remember just because it's stage 4 it doesn't mean it hopeless. I'm only stage 2 and my doctor just reminded me yesterday that I could still die from this. I refuse to let this steal my joy... If you arent getting any answers you have to speak up for yourself. You have to stay very involved in what should be happening.  I researched everything I could before I even knew what cancer I had.  Luckily I have great doctors who have done everything when it comes to testing. I would advise you to do some research so you have a idea what to expect . Then start asking questions. Hold your doctor accountable to help you.  If you don't mind me asking how old are you ? Do you have children?  Stay strong!!!! ... View more

So sorry to hear about your mom... I personally would respect her wishes... Our oldest son and his family are flying home in January.  I know they can't afford to and it brakes my heart. I know he's worried that I may not be around this time next year.  My doctor just reminded me yesterday that I could still die from my cancer and that I need to take it more seriously than I am.  I don't want my kids or grandchildren changing their life because of me.  I know they love me.  That's why I wake up everyday happy.  I'm sure your mom feels the same way.  If you decide not to go never regret it.  I can feel how much you love her by your post.  I'm sure she knows it as well.  Make her last days about her and not you.. If I were you I would go afterwards and spend the time helping your dad. I could be lost without my wife . I'm so thankful that it's me with cancer and not her. Be strong for your daughter as well. This will be a life learning experience. If she see you handing it well she will be better prepared for ruff times in her life.  I would prefer not to have cancer but I do. I'm using it to teach my family to stay positive and strong... Stay strong!!! ... View more