Hi Beautiful words.....it's true ...we only have this moment .....and I too often just sit and enjoy the sun or the birds. Take care....Willow xo ... View more

Joyhoney that was a shame that you had a similiar experience with the young BC patient who you seemed to connect with. Glad to see that your penfriends were of help to you. I keep up email contact with someone I met on line in the UK, it's great. I did feel that the issue was also needing to initiate something outside of chemo too soon rather than have it just develop as before the day was changed we would have had 6 chemo sessions together so no rush (seeing that we weren't always going to discuss feelings, more comfortable about doing so). From the same conversation I think it was also not wanting to become involved with another cancer patient, but again no ongoing contact to explain my prognosis, BC patients can last several years even with metastic cancer and for me being a very recent diagnosis with my first and only treatment round, I have no reoccurence (hopefully never will) Anyhow on the positive side it was a chance for me to apply what I'd learnt as this counsellor said be like a scientist and gather the evidence then test it out, ie the invitation, before making asumptions and a conclusion, possibly not interested. And I left the door open by suggesting to get back to me when free to meet up. Simply discussing the friendship topic has been helpful already and feeling more hopeful. Take care Deejjay ... View more

I occasionally find some situations (work and social) can be isolating because many people I work with around my age are married already have children. Also, some single people are much younger than me, so there are few people I have anything in common. Sometimes, it is easier to stick to topics like - hobbies, travel, music, news etc which isn't age or family related. It is hard to figure out how to respond to a tricky question - like, "have you done something to your hair" or you look different compared to last year. It helped me to have some answers "pre-prepared" and only disclose info to people that I felt ok with. It gets better with time. ... View more

That's exactly how it will be Tsey and that is all fine with me! A walk at the beach and a good coffee will be great. S ... View more

I lost my mum 8 years ago, and to this day I miss her. Sge was my best friend, and many times did I go to her for her opinion on how to tackle my boy's ADHD. I miss her strong shoulder on which I would cry when time were difficult. I still cry on special dates and also out of the blue. The pain does not really go away, but it does get easier. It is good to cry, as it releases tension, so in that respect she is still with me supporting me, and I am grateful for it. S ... View more

Hi Moshe That is rough that you have few friends and family at a time when you need that support. Do you have treatment with others? Sit in a waiting room to see oncologists etc where there's others? Maybe you'll meet a couple of friends that way. Are there cancer support groups near where you live as that's another option. What about through your religion? Anyhow I'm sure you'll meet some people on these boards as well. Take care Deejjay ... View more

Thank you for that Don, I have recently been contacted by the Vic Palliative care in my area and they will be coming to see me soon. ... View more

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So I went to the worshop, very friendly ladies. I was unfortunate that I already have very sensitive skin under normal circumstances, but with chemo it is even worse, to the point that I reacted to the first thing I put on my skin. I have to say though that these ladies are very informative, and they really do spoil us, the wigs and scaves are also great to try on and see what you can do with them. I don't need them yet but might later. So Ladies do go if you can, you will have fun. ... View more