How did your mum go with the new lump? I can understand why she didnt tell you in a way she is protecting you from worrying as she obviously knows how much you will be effected by this. We have the same situation but in reverse, my husband has liver cancer and hasnt told his mother the whole truth because she lost her husband 12 months ago and just a few days ago lost her best friend both of them to cancer and because she is in NSW and us in Vic it is hard, but should my husband not respond to the latest treatment we will be telling her the whole truth. ... View more

A thousand tears fell down my face Leaving you in that room was my mistake Selfish thoughts ran through my mind ohhh those times i cried your heart and breathe fading away No longer strong to take your pain Eyes closed tight breathe a whisper she smiles n sees the light grow brighter Heaven waits for no one Heart sacrifices are in in part Days go by as life falls apart Lifes not the same since your big depart. Hearts are broken lives torn apart your leaving us dented our hearts . Mystik73 ... View more

Thank you for your thoughts, Casper. I'm trying all I can to "prepare for the worst and hope for the best" with the top priority of taking good care of my body, mind, and spirit - eat healthy, exercise (gentle or just walking), meditation - everything I never did before cancer. In the meantime I'm trying to enjoy each moment that I still have. Life is so precious... :-) I'm sending you also positive energy and prayers. Jen ... View more

What a truckload to deal with! I'm so sad that all this has happened to you and your family. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself as you deal with all this- if you find it overwhelming (and who wouldn't!), counselling may help give you more coping mechanisms. Sending you cyber-hugs, love Emily ... View more

Hi Pauline, Three diagnoses of breast cancer in close relatives on your mother's side suggests a substantial probability that there is an inherited breast cancer gene on her side of your family. If there is, there's a fifty percent (one in two) chance you've inherited it. There's a lot of good reading on the internet about inherited breast cancer and genetic testing. My suggestion would be to quietly explore the information and discussions at the sites I've given links to below. That will put you in a much better position to make a decision about whether to go see a genetic counselor, and to have an informed discussion with the counselor if you decide to see one. I'd be surprised if they don't suggest genetic testing if that's what you want to do. Three websites where you can find very good articles and discussion about hereditary breast cancer and genetic testing are Breastcancer.org at www.breastcancer.org, the FORCE website www.facingourrisk.org, and the National Cancer Institute (USA) website www.cancer.gov. Here's how to find the info on each site. On the Breastcancer.org website, try this direct link www.breastcancer.org/risk/factors/genetics.jsp or go to their home page at www.breastcancer.org and click on the link 'Breast Cancer Risk Factors' (it's under the heading 'Lower Your Risk'), and then look at the links on the left side of the new page to see the range of topics covered. On the FORCE website, click on the link "Information and Research" on their home page www.facingourrisk.org where you will find links to a variety of good information. On the National Cancer Institute website, go to the Breast Cancer: Prevention, Genetics, Causes page at www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/prevention-genetics-causes/breast and the Cancer Genetics gateway page at www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/prevention-genetics-causes/genetics and scroll down the pages to find links to their articles. Good luck if you get tested and good luck with your testing Mystik73 🙂 Cheers - Ed Http://bestcancersites.com/breast/ ... View more

Please continue with your story. Writing can be very cathartic, and others can also learn from you Gail ... View more

Hello, I wonder if anyone out there has a situation like mine? I've been caring 24/7 for my husband 73 yrs old tomorrow diagnosed with terminal GBM Nov 2011. I'm in early 60's and also caring for my granddaughter now 15. I was made her legal guardian several years ago. My granddaughter isn't coping with my husband dying and so as well as having his personality changes and duties to attend to, to keep him as happy and comfortable as possible, there is her mental health to consider plus juggling appointments and other commitments for both of them. I do well sometimes and I'm not looking for 'oh you poor thing' but lately am getting the familiar feeling of 'I'm falling apart and cope cope with this much longer, and how long can this go on?" I'm not impressed with man made religious organisations but I believe strongly in God and know He's there for me/us and a I did a Mindfulness Course last year at CancerCare which I highly recommend to anyone - though the only part I do every day is the breathing - and not for any length of time...Even this small thing helps enormously but I know I'm getting run down again. Money's becoming a big concern. Recently diagnosed with Hashimotos (auto immune disease) I take the medication and push myself to dress nicely, put makeup on when we go out to keep my spirits/self esteem up. People say 'Oh, you look lovely' or 'Your husband looks really well' not having a clue what's going on naturally. Anyway, what do others do when they feel like they're falling apart? ... View more

Hi Just wanted to say Hi ,and if you need to talk about anything im here to listen 🙂 ... View more