Youre so right about staying strong Cindi. I hope everyone has a safe and happy xmas, love to you all xox ... View more

@scorpio2318, I just want to say my heart goes out to you both it must be so, so hard for you and your wife. Please try to get counseling ( together as its hard for you too) it will help her PTSD and worries, the unknown can be so scary, and please tell her to never give up hope,  and best not to look up stuff on Dr. Google as so much isn't true and also outdated, it just scares you. Stick to sites like this Cancer council ones,&  authentic ones. Wishing and hoping for the best outcome for your wife, just remember to never give up hope, & keep pushing as so much can be done now to help us all. Cindi xx ... View more

I'm pleased it helped, and I hope you get the support you need.  I hope your treatment goes well.   ... View more

Hi Suzanne, I'm so sorry that you've had this news. It must be so hard. I can't offer any advice on that choice, which would be informed by an oncologist (you can get also get a second opinion). Keep doing things that bring you joy. I care about you, and I'm here for you. Sending you lots of love and positivity.  ... View more

Hi Cindi54 bladder cancer often attacks lymph nodes first but not necessarily, fat is only a protection layer Sounds like the ureter cancer is different when you don’t have bladder cancer as if you didn’t have bladder cancer there is nothing to get out of the bladder and that is why you would be having chemotherapy differently as you don’t need it in your bladder  ... View more

Are you sure he has cancer? That was my first thought. My second thought was that if his behaviour has already been a problem, why would you feel you have to stay with him? I am sorry if he does have cancer - as I would be for anyone with it - but that doesn't change the fact that there were already many challenges in the relationship. Others may disagree, but I think you would be taking on more than you can - or should - cope with. From what you have written, it seems you are constantly justifying why you stay with him - making excuses for his behaviour eg. it's because he is out of work etc. It's kind of like marrying someone who has already shown that he is abusive. Why would you do that? ... View more

Hi Chloe It's not easy seeing your father in this condition, and it's good that you've found this forum. There are so many different types of cancers and cancer treatments, even people who on paper may have the same type of cancer their treatment and side effects can vary.  It may be worth asking for a meeting with your father's consultant. If you are in Australia, you can call the 13 11 20 support line.  The line is managed by Allied Health worker, they can provide you with emotional support and may be able to answer your clinical questions.   ... View more

Hi    Getting a cancer a cancer diagnosis or supporting someone with a cancer diagnosis, is a life changing event, it can be scary and isolating.  It's good if you have friend, family or a supportive GP who can help you.  You can also look at the Cancer Council's website, they have some great resources, if you live in Australia, you can call the 13 11 20 number, that's manned by Allied Health workers, they will be happy to speak to you.  The most important thing is that you reach out for support.   Cancer Council NSW - Cancer Information and Support   ... View more

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your husband's pancreatic cancer diagnosis.  It can be challenging and isolating supporting someone with cancer.  Cancer Council NSW have some good resources for people who are supporting people with cancer.  If you live in Australia they also have a carer's Telephone Support group that may help you.  You can call their 13 11 20 support line telephone number, they can tell you about the support they can provide. This is the link for the Cancer Council's information for carers - Caring for someone with cancer | Cancer Council   I hope you also get other support from the forum. It's important to get help and support for you too. ... View more

Hi Scott, it looks like you've received some great advice from your post.  I agree with some of the others it might be worth looking for some psychological support.  If you're in Australia, you can contact the Cancer Council; 13 11 20.  If your outside of Australia, look for organizations who provide support for people who have been impacted by cancer, or speak to your GP.   I hope you get the support you need to get you through this period.         ... View more