You will prevail, give yourself time. Please don't worry about what might happen and enjoy your kids with a lighter heart. They will pick up on your panic and it will do them no good. Relax and take each day as it comes. Funny telling you this "take each day as it comes" because right now my youngest daughter actually has an incurable blood cancer and I tell myself this every day. This forum is a great resource for people like us because we are communicating with people who understand what we are going through. The fear is so debilitating and serves no purpose other than to make us sick too. You can do this. Be a warrior for your children. I wish I could say god bless you, however I no longer believe there is a god. I do believe in love. Love to you and your family. ... View more

Hi Wendy, Thank you that really was extremely helpful!! Great idea - group message my close friends. I think that is the best approach, also gives people time to think about their response and remember to say reply to me not to all. I wish you and your husband the very best in his treatment ahead also Wendy and - and on behalf of him, as someone who is being supported by a great partner like yourself, Thank you! Take care Lisa ... View more

Hi there, Sorry to hear about the news with your mum. My name is John and about a month ago - my Dad was diagnosed with an aggressive Prostate Cancer that looks to have spread to his bones. It was a funny old time come to think of it - my Dad was hobbling around with saw legs, then a sore bum cheek bone... then sore this, sore that... He went to the doctors and test after test couldnt really find anything... so we didn't really worry to much. He's 62 so we thought it was old age, perhaps nerve issues... and so on. Anyway... finally, after some time, I remember getting the phone call (txt msg actually...) "You're dad's in the hospital, found some swollen lymph nodes"... and really, from their my heart sunk. Its been a ride, really only a month - of tests, scans and the whole works. It pains me to share with you - that for my dad, the doctors have told him that he might have 12 months to 5 years... depending if everything works in his favor. But you know what... he might not even have that. In fact, none of us might have that. After learning about my Dad, I've really tried to think and respect life a literally differently. Sure, we get up, go to work, stuck in traffic, answer emails, play with the kids - cook tea, clean the dishes... sure, it can sometimes fell a bit same old, same old. But life isn't really about that - because one minute our lives were normal, the next minute we were faced with Cancer that will take the life of my Dad. He is your typical Dad and a huge part of our lives. My life, my sisters, my mums... and his grandchildren. I'll admit - I have moments where I feel really glum. But I'm also not afraid to admit that I have moments where I'm almost at terms with it. Sure - I've cried, been angry, dissapointed, panicky... but please know that we all have different emotions and when they come, we need to let them out not bottle them. Right now - you're gob smacked your mum has cancer. But if you focus on the positives and focus on each and every day... your mind will somehow come to terms with whats going on. I won't lie... No one will ever give you peace of mind. When we get these serious diagnosis - our brains frantically try and flick the switch to make everything fine again... but the truth is, you can't always find that peace. So you need to work with it... focus on the good things and be positive. Remember that life is a journey that for all of us, has an end point. Being scared about the unknown is perfectly normal... but don't forget, we ALL take this journey. I hope everything works out for your mum and please know that many of us here are here to help and listen. Regards ... View more

No Whipple procedure carried out as cancer has spread to peritoneal area and outer lining of stomach. Palliative hepatojejunostomy created and Gastrojejunostomy fashioned... Discharge letter! Now has a wound infection but has been discharged and we are heading home to Busselton for a family Christmas :) Treasuring every day. regards ... View more

hello john,,thanku so much for ur reply,,i am so sorry to hear about ur dad,,i have read ur reply over and over and somewhat u have given me a bit of strength,,my mind has 2 sides rational and irrational,,i no that no one is promised tomorrow,,as i said to my mum,i could drop dead right now of a heart attack or anything,,but then the irrational side starts rearing its ugly head,,the whats ifs?? and i no the what ifs may never happen,,i have battled depression since i was 24 i am now 40 and always the negatives are there,,i ask god for peace,,but at the age of 24 i started suffering panic attacks ocd sub thought,,and when i sought professionally help,,the doc said the death of my dad would of been why,,he said a lot of times something can happen and a lot of times it will start in ur 20s,,mum has always been a nervous person,,and living right opposite i have been there my whole life,,been in a domestic violent relationship,,where as for a lot of years i dont have one single friend,,because of the person i was with,,its always been only my mum,,and i do feel guilty as i no there are little children fighting for there life with this hiddeous disease,,i do wish i could heal everyone..and erradicate the c word..i do have a lot of family members battling cancer,,but not close to me like my mum.. ... View more

razzledog I listened to your song and good for you!! Have shared it on facebook so it might get some hits. I wish you all the luck with your cancer and also for the best outcome. I was diagnosed 25 years ago and given approx a month to live. Sometimes it does happen! Julie ... View more

Hi There, Wow - 3 kids at what some would say is a young age (27) in today's society... that's really wonderful. Good for you, I'm sure they'll be wonderful support no matter what decision you chose. I'm 31 and I've just had my first daughter with my wife who is 32. I can't comment directly on what your expiriencing - but I wanted to welcome you to the forum and encourage you, if you haven't already, just to browse through the other replies/questions and blog posts by members. It helps to talk with people and it can actually help give you a little peace of mind while you've obviously got a lot on your plate. So sorry - I'm a male and don't have any knowledge what so ever what you're discussing 🙂 ... but I did, for what its worth, want to say G'day here and now and wish you the best of luck ... View more

Hi Ginnie, Thanks for stopping by the forums. Have you had a chance to browse through and ready some other peoples journey's and stories. It helps to know that first and foremost, you're not alone... and Cancer does not discriminate to age/size or shape. It must be incredibly tough receiving news of advanced lung cancer - but can I say that I actually found your post quite encouraging... because, I don't know, you sound like you're actually being quite positive about it. Ginnie, my name is John and I'm from Melbourne. My father was recently diagnosed with an aggressive Prostate Cancer and I'm in the category of caring for someone with cancer. What I've found is that sharing your experiences helps a great deal - whether it be anonymously through the internet, or even with local support groups and of course, the Cancer Council (13 11 20). So please - reach out and know that while it sounds like you have a great support base around you (Which is really wonderful as believe me, not everyone has their family/friends around in their time of need)... dig deep and make the small effort it requires to call the hotline and talk with people going through this By my reply alone - i hope you'll completely realize that you're not alone at all. In fact, hundreds and thousands of us across Australia are going through this with you right now. This very moment. Don't ever think you're alone in this and don't every think for one second, that tomorrow is promised to anyone. All we have is this moment right now and you know what, let's make the most of it :) Regards JR ... View more

Hi Karolina Sorry to hear about you mum - it is very tragic and I completely understand you feeling cheated especially because of your new baby. My dad passed away in September, he was 78 and I am 36. I have seen him deteriate over the past 9 months and I feel that is such a sad part of this disease. You just need to give yourself time and you will as you say focus on all the good memories as time passes. Take care. ... View more